• Therapy with Alex
    Therapy with Alex Taking the first steps in acknowledging that you need support doesn’t make you weak, in fact it is quite the opposite. Considering the demanding world we live in today I believe that therapy is becoming a necessity
  • Fear of the Unknown
    Fear of the Unknown Through undertaking therapy we can stretch our capacity to tolerate the moment to moment uncertainties of life. Over time you may come to embrace the ebbs and flows of life, and gain an acceptance of ‘what is’.
  • Know thyself
    Know thyself Socrates (C. 469 BC-399 BC) one of the world’s most celebrated philosophers knew the priceless value of self knowledge. In our generation self knowledge gained in therapy is yet again becoming the King of currency.
  • Therapy with Alex
    Therapy with Alex Taking the first steps in acknowledging that you need support doesn’t make you weak, in fact it is quite the opposite. Considering the demanding world we live in today I believe that therapy is becoming a necessity

Your input is important to me. Please provide your valuable feedback. Here are some testimonials from my past and present clients:

 
Date of Posting: 04 September 2020
Posted By: Lewis
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and where there any key/standout moments?
“I have learnt that things aren’t always my fault as I used to quickly believe. A key moment was when you challenged me on the choices I make, I know now it’s a case of sitting back and reflecting over the whole situation without the ready made judgements I used to have about myself that sent me downwards. I also liked how you kept me in the present, the here and now as you called it. I used to either dwell in the past or worry about the future. I remind myself often now that it’s about today and only today”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?
“yes I would recommend you to anyone as I feel like you have made me a better person. Thank you”.
, Tyne and Wear
 
Date of Posting: 24 July 2020
Posted By: J, B.
What if anything, have I learnt..... LOTS!

In short I have learnt your past does not have to define your future.
Your environment (people and situations) can poison your body but it is possible to expel that and stop it affecting you as long as you are aware.

Being governed by old patterns is harmful but it's possible to stop them
Your thoughts are not necessarily your friend!!

Key stand out moment........
Realising I am living a more conscious life, and that I am catching myself before slipping into old worn patterns of behaviour.
Finding my spark and energy was back, not feeling like the old worn out woman as I did last year

Major moment was when I found I was asking myself - why are you doing this? What are you wanting to achieve from this? Should you be doing this?
Would I recommend therapy with you.....

YES!!!! Unless you want 'tea and sympathy' or an easy ride then maybe not ?
and why......

I would never have got to a place of peace, happiness and contentment without the work we have done over the last year.

The challenges made of me really ensured I examined what I was doing and why.

I feel I will take these lessons forward through the next phase of my life (and if I have any new issues I know where you live!!!)
, Teesside
 
Date of Posting: 22 July 2020
Posted By: J, B.
What if anything, have I learnt..... LOTS!

In short I have learnt your past does not have to define your future.
Your environment (people and situations) can poison your body but it is possible to expel that and stop it affecting you as long as you are aware.

Being governed by old patterns is harmful but it's possible to stop them
Your thoughts are not necessarily your friend!!

Key stand out moment........

Realising I am living a more conscious life, and that I am catching myself before slipping into old worn patterns of behaviour.
Finding my spark and energy was back, not feeling like the old worn out woman as I did last year
Major moment was when I found I was asking myself - why are you doing this? What are you wanting to achieve from this? Should you be doing this?

Would I recommend therapy with you.....

YES!!!! Unless you want 'tea and sympathy' or an easy ride then maybe not and why......

I would never have got to a place of peace, happiness and contentment without the work we have done over the last year.

The challenges made of me really ensured I examined what I was doing and why.

I feel I will take these lessons forward through the next phase of my life (and if I have any new issues I know where you live!!!)
Thank you
, Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and were there any key/standout moments?
“I think I have learned I can stick up for myself without it coming across as a negative. I didn’t realise how little I’d dealt with being bullied as a child. It’s given me an inner strength I didn’t know I possessed”.
Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?
“Absolutely recommend therapy with yourself. Why? You’ve got a real ability to go to the root of the problem, whether I think there’s one or not, you’ve got a real way about you (not sure how to word that any better off the cuff) I’ve certainly gained a lot more from these therapy sessions than I actually thought I would”.
 
Date of Posting: 10 March 2020
Posted By: K S
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and were there any key/standout moments?
“I think the main thing I’ve learned about my preconceptions before starting therapy is that there needs to be a definitive answer, solution. Sometimes accepting things can really shed some light on things I didn’t feel were connected. You’ve got straight to the point and went through my past and tied things into my present with the theory explaining that. I’ve looked at these things and accepted that they play a part in how I am and who I am. I can choose how I am in the here and now. The drama triangle was a standout, realising how events bounce around without escape was big, accepting that and understanding that was powerful. Actually realising and knowing this is what I’m doing, and this is what will come from that, you used “that’s not for me” regularly which took me a while to get my head around. What you meant was I’m not willing to accept this because there’s other ways I can go about this. I don’t need to carry that weight. It’s helped me to have a different view on almost everything, day to day interactions. Transference was also useful, explaining how that can have an effect on how we see and are seen. I’m aware that my triggers haven’t necessarily changed but how I see them has in a positive way, giving me more choice and freedom. For me the acceptance part as well, when people have talked to me about therapy a lot of it has been acceptance that you can get yourself into cycles, and you can take one step outside of it to be removed and say “what was I doing”.
Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?
“Absolutely again you’ve commented a little bit about feedback, the stigma men have, I was absolutely that guy, I’ve not understood the idea of therapy, I’d tried CBT so I had a reference point I’d seen a different style. The way I’ve tried to describe how I feel and why it’s not the same for everyone. Your mind sees the cage, the lock is on the outside and you’ve helped me unlock it. Your own personal style, I can imagine not everyone goes around it the way you do, which isn’t negative or positive. I thought it would be a lot more formal, a bit like in the movies. It’s been far more ‘in conversation’ planned but loose and I’d say it takes a couple of sessions to be able to feel comfortable in speaking to someone about things that you’ve never spoke about and to see how these methods are working. I wanted to come but there was anxiety. I came to look forward to Tuesdays to see what I’d learn next, to unlock that cage and make it a bit wider.
I did expect my therapist to throw the odd swear word in, to tell me about your own experiences, that threw me a little bit. But it has helped, because opening up is easier when others open up to you. That two way thing is eased when someone else will do the same in some degree. Good friends are people who tell each other things. I don’t feel as judged as I’m other relationships”.
 
Date of Posting: 07 February 2020
Posted By: N W
Teesside
Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and were there any key/standout moments?

“What was key for me was the chain of events following our accident. I’ve learned It’s OK to not feel OK. It is what it is now, and what happened no longer controls me. I accept what happens, I’m no longer ruled by it.
The practical breathing Excercise’s we started with was helpful straight away in grounding me, it gave me a platform to work from.
The biggest standout moment for me was talking about the accident, I felt really rubbish after, like a watershed moment. Then I came through it and learned I didn’t need to lock it away constantly. I cried here, pushing it away hadn’t done me any good. Even walking through the door was a major step forward for me”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Definitely. It’s absolutely worked for me. I’ve lost what I thought it would be like. You’ve probed and got things out of me that were holding me back and it’s been much more conversational than I though it would be. You tackle things head on. Without hesitation I’d say ‘go and speak to Alex’.
 
Date of Posting: 19 October 2019
Posted By: Ed O
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together. And were there any key/standout moments?

“Alex has shown me that I am a much stronger person than I thought I was. He's shown me how to deal with certain issues and I have a newly gained confidence in myself.
In particular a key standout moment was when we did roleplay to help me understand some situations and it really did answer a lot of questions for me... apart from the fact that I would never ever have pictured myself ever having the guts to agree to do roleplay ever ! But it really does help and I'm so glad I did it”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would recommend Alex as a therapist because he fully made me feel at ease from our very first meeting, he is professional and he has a kind and understanding aura about him, there is always a cuppa on hand and an endless supply of tissues. !!
Thank you so very much Alex, you've shown me who I really am and gave me guidance through some exceptionally difficult times, for this I will be eternally grateful. Thank you”.
 
Date of Posting: 13 October 2019
Posted By: Kath W
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together. And where there any key-standout moments?

“I've realised how much I am not in control of my own life and have gained the ability to be able to look at myself and assess how I'm feeling and what my actions are doing to myself and those around me in more depth. I've realised I bring a hell of a lot of stress in to my life that makes me miserable and effects my mental health.

There's parts of me that are very selfish and I've lost my empathy for others to the point where I can feel nothing at all for someone I had a massive connection with an hour earlier.

Social anxiety was something I thought I'd just have to live with and I abused alcohol to relieve that as well as using it to mask any stress in my life. I found the social anxiety suprisingly easy to deal with which has helped me cut down drinking a lot. I still find myself drinking more than I should, but I'm keeping an eye on it and trying to create a different behaviour pattern if I find myself in a situation where drinking is expected or encouraged.

I thought I was strong by being able to walk away from a relationship in the past, but I've realised it takes a stronger person to face up to a problem and resolve it. I'm realising that when I am stressed I am more prone to walking away and sticking two fingers up at the problem. I can now look at this pattern and be more in control of the situation.

My relationship with my current girlfriend has become a lot easier for both myself and for her due to our therapy.

I've not felt I've learned a great deal or gained many new behaviours from our sessions, but my life is changing for the better and I realise I am on the right path now...also someone recently said to me "When you say the word 'but' it wipes out what you've said before it". (You) So I'm now looking at the future with different eyes, re-assessing myself and hopefully coming back after a break with a refreshed view of what I need to work on to continue bettering myself”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, after reading about you on a webpage I got the impression I'd be able to ask you to be tough with me and kick me in to shape a bit. I knew I'd try and pull the wool over your eyes so warned you about this at the start.

We soon created a connection I was happy with and you helped me through some things I was struggling with and opened my eyes to some things I didn't realise I was struggling with.

You like a challenge and have a passion for your work. You’re polite and easy to talk to even for someone with issues talking about their problems.

You have a great place to talk that is comfortable, private and makes you feel at home.

This was my first time using a therapist and I would highly reccommend Alex to anyone thinking of trying it”.
 
Date of Posting: 21 August 2019
Posted By: Rob
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve learned I have to not take on other people’s problems and let them make their own mistakes. Let things take there own course, what will be will be.
Don’t be ashamed to talk with others about your problems and talk up for yourself if people run you down regarding your state of mind.
I realise how much I have taken on over my life so far and how strong I have been over the years.
Important point I still love my parents so very much and talking to my dad with you in role play I am so proud of him for thanking me in trying to save his life”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would highly recommend you to anybody I cross paths with who is in a bad situation, you are a true professional. The most important thing is your own life experience that you can draw upon and your caring attitude to me and others.
I can only thank you for saving me from self destruction you gave me the tools, positive thoughts and courage to get on with my life. I thank you again.
I won’t hesitate to call you if I start to drift back in that dark place.
Love to you and your family.
Warmly Ian xx”
 
Date of Posting: 15 August 2019
Posted By: Ian
Cleveland
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve gained some communication skills, I’m better able to talk to people about my problems. Better resolution skills. Stopped being so harsh on myself. Doing the anger work with the baseball bat really stood out for me, I felt like I’d never been able to let stuff out, that took a lot of weight off my shoulders. I feel like I don’t have to be defined by my past and I can grow and learn and shit. Being able to communicate what I want and don’t want held me back in the past, with my new partner now I’m a lot better at expressing myself. Another point that stood out for me was when you pointed out how much I clammed up and how hard you had to work because of that. I took that point and worked harder in here and now I do the same when I’m out of the therapy room with people”.

Question 2

“Yeah I would because it’s helped me a lot to deal with stuff in my life and it’s give me more confidence. Again I bottle less up now and express myself more clearly. A lot of the time before by not saying much I was kind of being dishonest, some of the things I left out or didn’t say, were important to me and others, now I can ask them what they want and tell them what I want. It feels like I’m being more direct and more honest.

N, W.
Stockton-on-Tees
July 2019
 
Date of Posting: 19 July 2019
Posted By: N,
Stockton-on-Tees

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