• Therapy with Alex
    Therapy with Alex Taking the first steps in acknowledging that you need support doesn’t make you weak, in fact it is quite the opposite. Considering the demanding world we live in today I believe that therapy is becoming a necessity
  • Fear of the Unknown
    Fear of the Unknown Through undertaking therapy we can stretch our capacity to tolerate the moment to moment uncertainties of life. Over time you may come to embrace the ebbs and flows of life, and gain an acceptance of ‘what is’.
  • Know thyself
    Know thyself Socrates (C. 469 BC-399 BC) one of the world’s most celebrated philosophers knew the priceless value of self knowledge. In our generation self knowledge gained in therapy is yet again becoming the King of currency.
  • Therapy with Alex
    Therapy with Alex Taking the first steps in acknowledging that you need support doesn’t make you weak, in fact it is quite the opposite. Considering the demanding world we live in today I believe that therapy is becoming a necessity

Your input is important to me. Please provide your valuable feedback. Here are some testimonials from my past and present clients:

Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve gained some communication skills, I’m better able to talk to people about my problems. Better resolution skills. Stopped being so harsh on myself. Doing the anger work with the baseball bat really stood out for me, I felt like I’d never been able to let stuff out, that took a lot of weight off my shoulders. I feel like I don’t have to be defined by my past and I can grow and learn and shit. Being able to communicate what I want and don’t want held me back in the past, with my new partner now I’m a lot better at expressing myself. Another point that stood out for me was when you pointed out how much I clammed up and how hard you had to work because of that. I took that point and worked harder in here and now I do the same when I’m out of the therapy room with people”.

Question 2

“Yeah I would because it’s helped me a lot to deal with stuff in my life and it’s give me more confidence. Again I bottle less up now and express myself more clearly. A lot of the time before by not saying much I was kind of being dishonest, some of the things I left out or didn’t say, were important to me and others, now I can ask them what they want and tell them what I want. It feels like I’m being more direct and more honest.

N, W.
Stockton-on-Tees
July 2019
 
Date of Posting: 19 July 2019
Posted By: N,
Stockton-on-Tees
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve gained discipline, maturity and more honesty with myself and others. I’m also more confident and relaxed in general.
A standout moment was when we were working on possible relationships and I said I’m looking for a 9 and ideally a 10 based on looks. You asked what I thought I was. I said a 9, you disagreed and said you thought I was a 7 with a potential of being an 8 if I worked hard at it. I didn’t like hearing that, but yes I was objectifying others and dismissing my own shortfalls. You’re very direct and honest, I needed that.
I’ve been off the alcohol now for nearly a year, lost two stone, sharpened up all round, you’ve challenged me to put myself out there to better my social skills and I’ve took on the challenge. I’ve been to cookery classes, dancing lessons, kickboxing classes and kept it all up building relationships along the way and learning new skills.
I’m less selfish now, I think before I act impulsively, and wonder how others might be affected. I’m also better at handling conflict, probably because of your challenging style and my kickboxing sessions where I get a lot of frustration and anger out. And the role play, I’ve got a lot out of that.
You don’t tell people what they want to hear, I haven’t had much of that and the times that I have I’ve either kicked off or ran away. Being an only child with an overprotective mother probably made my skin too thin, I could have done with some siblings to bounce off. You’ve been like that big brother or Dad. Firm but fair.”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes I would, for all of the above reasons. I like myself more now and my life is fuller. I’ll miss you and I’ll miss coming and if I need too, I won’t be too proud to come back for help again. Thank you”.

 
Date of Posting: 17 July 2019
Posted By: Andrew
Stockton-on-Tees
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“Without wanting to sound too dramatic I survived my own personal holocaust. I was surprised at how much I was taken in by other men because I was so desperate. I remember the day I was in here and in my head absolutely flipped, not knowing whether I would or could come back, it was a massive turning point, I kept feeling the spike and the dips. I remember you asking ‘how old I felt right now’ and then saying ‘you’re acting like a spoilt kid throwing all the toys out the Pram and books off the shelf, what would your adult say to your kid?’ it felt like a slap in the face and a real waking moment. Looking back it all seems so unreal, I’ve learnt so much including not judging myself so harshly. What happened was a living nightmare.
I know I’ve lost some friendships through it, I’ve had to withdraw from some people which happens when battle lines are drawn.
I’m way happier in my own company than I ever imagined I could be, and I now have a new healthy relationship where I can enjoy male company in a way I thought was impossible.
Despite pressure and temptation I was determined not to be a man hater as that would only hurt me.
I’m employed again, Solvent and capable of having healthy relationships with both sexes. I can also be vulnerable and not be fearful of falling apart.
I realise now I never ever knew the man I was married too. All the things I brushed off came back to haunt me, and in the end I chose not to live a lie. I’ve invested in myself with you and it’s money well spent.
I know now I do deserve more, I like company but I don’t need it. I’m comfortable in my own skin. I’m a better listener to my friends now too and have shared my story with women’s groups which they tell me they’ve found inspiring”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, like I even had to say to my panicking GP who put a safeguarding call in on me! You were recommended to me a long time ago, she said you’re very tough, clever, direct, and don’t take any shit. She said there’s nothing I could throw at you that would surprise you ‘he’s been around the block to places other therapists couldn’t begin to understand’ I needed that, I’ve met the others, the twin set and pearls therapists and academics who I’ve had to minimise myself and my experiences with, or the ones who just try to medicate you. I needed somebody who knew the dark side to get me out of the one I’d been put in. You need people with life experience, you’ve got a lot of it and you can’t buy that or learn it, unless you’ve lived it.
You’re probably the most unlikely therapist in the world, there’d be people I wouldn’t dare send to you, not without warning them”.

 
Date of Posting: 19 June 2019
Posted By: Julie
Middlesbrough
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together. And where there any stand out/key moments?

“There were many standout moments. First time I met you, I was in a position that life wasn’t worth anything. Each session I could feel that feeling going away, making me want to come back and infact aching to come back to see you another day. Everyone wants be positive and each session I left more positive. I have learnt from all your sessions, there is a purpose in everyone’s life, mine is to help, in one way or other and you showed me the way”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

“You are the only therapist I know who takes personal interest in your clients. I call me client, but I never got that feeling. Infact I felt you never considered me just a client. Once I even saw a tear in your eye as I was talking. It’s the human element that makes you unique. That’s why I d recommend you, whoever goes to Alex, stick with him for a few sessions, you ll know the difference then”.
 
Date of Posting: 18 April 2019
Posted By: S,K.
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained-learned about yourself over the duration of our work together. And where there any key/standout moments?

“I’ve learned that I’m the person in the wrong in all of this, I shouldn’t have been passing the blame like I have in the past. Standout moment was when I called the trouble I caused a pebble in a pond and you said it was more like a fucking paving slab! I realise that now and I’m dealing with it. I also learned that I’m able to be less angry than before and less stressed with all the talk and techniques you’ve taught me. Like you said 1% better a week adds up over time, I got more than that and I’m headed in the right direction”.

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes. Firstly I haven’t been scared to tell you anything from the first time I met you. It felt like we were both similar fellas, I knew you could take anything on board. I don’t think I’d have been able to say the same things to a woman sat there, not at that depth. Also you’ve never patronised me, I say something and you put a metaphor or analogy to it, to make me see it in an easier and deeper way for me to understand. And regarding my speech, it’s a big thing, you never interrupt. I find it hard to speak to people normally. I could take half an hour to finish a sentence and you’d sit there and let me. I’ve felt so comfortable in that way with you.
It’s also like you’ve always been trying to put things into place for me, whether it’s Jiu Jitsu, and the couples therapy you’ve mixed into our sessions for me. You’re looking out for me going forward, which I really appreciate. I think I’ll really miss coming here either way I’ll keep rolling forward just like in my G.A meetings”.
 
Date of Posting: 22 March 2019
Posted By: Craig
Redcar and Cleveland
Q1
What, if anything, have you learned about yourself, or gained over the duration of our work together. And were there any key-standout moments?

“I gained more of an understanding about why I react to certain things better meaning in general life I can catch myself doing it and avoid it. A standout moment was discussing the different sides to my personality and why they exist and also that it’s not a bad thing”.

Q2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would recommend therapy with you to other people because nothing I said resulted in me feeling like there was no point to saying it and I was able to fully open up and take on board your suggestions for me because I knew they’d actually be helpful”.
 
Date of Posting: 13 January 2019
Posted By: T,M.
North Yorkshire
Q1
What, if anything, have you learned about yourself, or gained over the duration of our work together. And where there any key-standout moments?

“Definitely a lot more understanding, I’m also a lot softer with myself now, I was expecting perfection without cutting myself slack. I’ve also got a lot more understanding of my physiology, how we work as humans, learning about my body responses to emotional stimuli has been massive. I’m a lot more informed of what and why my body and mind were out of sync. I had a narrow opinion of ‘talking therapy’ but this experience has certainly broke the barriers I had and opened my eyes”.

Q2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Definitely, you are extremely knowledgable and personable, there are very few holes in you. You also make very good connections tied in with life experience, I got the sense you’d been there and done it and I felt you were right there with me all the way”.

 
Date of Posting: 16 December 2018
Posted By: Gary
Teesside
Question 1

What if anything, have you learned or gained over the duration of our work together and were there any key-standout moments?

“I have worked with Alex for several years. The first point of seeking help for any life issues is choosing the right counsellor. I searched and trialled a few in the North East and then met Alex and life started to “click”.
The first thing I learnt is that its ok to have issues and nobody is perfect provided you are prepared to try and address them. Alex provided a great environment for me to be start to understand myself.
There were many standout moments but the one that was key for me was understanding my childhood and upbringing and the attachment issues I had which manifest in my adult life. This key understanding helps me today to develop my own personal and professional relationships.

I used to think everything was black and white (right or wrong) but actually there are so many aspects of life that are grey and its ok to live in the grey zone from time to time. Not everything needs to be fixed straight away !”


Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I have absolutely no hesitation whatsoever in recommending you. You have helped me in so many ways and transformed my life for the better in giving me the skills to deal with everyday life and make my relationships full in every way. Huge thank you for providing a shining light in my life when I most needed it.”

 
Date of Posting: 23 April 2018
Posted By: Mark
Teesside
Question 1

What if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key/specific stand out moments?

“Finding You as a Therapist was the best thing that could of happened for me when I was at the lowest time in my life. Your professionalism, care and knowledge was what supported and got me through something I never thought I would. I thought therapy was for "crazy people" but I come to learn in actual fact it is far from that, and it can actually be your saviour if you find the right therapist. My journey has been a long, hard, very sad challenging one but I have got through it all and I have came out such a strong person.
One thing that stood out to me was your persistence when I was ready to give up. You seen how scared my feelings were making me and how much I doubted myself, yet you never let me believe anything other than my strength and belief would get me through and in the end it did.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would absolutely one million percent recommend therapy with you.
Why...
because you are an amazing therapist who has a positive outlook on life, a knowledge of what a therapist consists of and are someone who teaches that you should always stand up for what you believe. You are strong and passionate and have a big heart. I owe so much to you for what you have done for me as my Therapist. I know that if it hadn't of been for your patience, guidance and support my story might of ended a lot differently. Thank you for just been you”.

 
Date of Posting: 15 April 2018
Posted By: J
Teesside
Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained-learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and where there any key/standout moments?

“We have worked together for over two years and I’ve learned invaluable life skills throughout that time. I manage my time and energy much more effectively now, in relation to business, relationships, friendships, and myself. I take time for myself without feeling guilty, and I communicate much better with those close to me in order for them to understand what’s going on somedays.
* The ‘drama triangle’ is a key standout moment to me, I fast read situations and make sure i predominantly stay on my ‘healthy triangle’.

The EMDR work that we did together was another key moment for me, and I now use the principle of it to destress when I feel overwhelmed.

At first when you suggested ‘role-play’, I thought ‘oh nooo I can’t do that’, but you helped me get into it and I really do encourage people to try it, because it got me through some of my most difficult times when I felt I didn’t have the strength to get my voice heard, you helped me find my voice and gave me my ‘safe place’ where I felt free and secure enough to let myself go. It also helped me to stop my mind from spiralling with worry over encounters or conversations.

I’ve learned so much about my childhood and attachments that I feel I can now enjoy my present and move forward in the most healthiest ways.

There’s so much I could write about what I’ve learned but the key most important thing you have taught me is to be balanced, informed, powerful, and vulnerable when I need to be too”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Over the years I have already recommended you to people and I will continue to do so.
Why?...because you have helped me through my hardest and darkest of times, you’ve been my rock for over two years and I know that your door is always open to me. The relationship we have built over that time is unparalleled and so important to me. I will be seeing you in the future, even just as a check in, my safe place
 
Date of Posting: 22 March 2018
Posted By: S
Teesside

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