• Therapy with Alex
    Therapy with Alex Taking the first steps in acknowledging that you need support doesn’t make you weak, in fact it is quite the opposite. Considering the demanding world we live in today I believe that therapy is becoming a necessity
  • Fear of the Unknown
    Fear of the Unknown Through undertaking therapy we can stretch our capacity to tolerate the moment to moment uncertainties of life. Over time you may come to embrace the ebbs and flows of life, and gain an acceptance of ‘what is’.
  • Know thyself
    Know thyself Socrates (C. 469 BC-399 BC) one of the world’s most celebrated philosophers knew the priceless value of self knowledge. In our generation self knowledge gained in therapy is yet again becoming the King of currency.
  • Therapy with Alex
    Therapy with Alex Taking the first steps in acknowledging that you need support doesn’t make you weak, in fact it is quite the opposite. Considering the demanding world we live in today I believe that therapy is becoming a necessity

Your input is important to me. Please provide your valuable feedback. Here are some testimonials from my past and present clients:

Q1:What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any key standout moments?

"I've learned about the impact that my family have had on my behaviour and my perception of things. I think I was in denial about how their behaviour may have affected me because I am lucky to have been blessed with a loving and caring family. However, they are not perfect (whose is!) and I've learned that my separation anxiety comes from the separation of my parents and the controlling behaviour that my mum displays. You've taught me ways to cope with this anxiety and spot the signs when it begins to affect my personal relationships.
I think one of the most important lessons I learned was about how to deal with tricky situations in romantic relationships. I often freak out if I don't hear from someone for a while or their behaviour isn't necessarily what I would do in a given situation. This is linked with my separation anxiety and you taught me to be a little more patient and sit with the discomfort a while longer before jumping to conclusions. This has really worked for me and I can honestly say may be one of the reasons why my new relationship is going well. I've also learned how to deal with conflict more appropriately. I do have a bit of a fiery side to me and this can aggravate situations even if I have the right to be angry. Therefore you taught me to convey my feelings in a way that is calm and respectful to the other person. This seems to be working so far.
I think one of the most life changing things that I've learned is to have confidence in my perceptions and feelings. My mother's personality is very different from mine and often she tries to mold me into what she thinks I should be like (ladylike, elegant, calm) but that just isn't me. She does this because she wants what is best but she needs to learn to accept me for who I am. Because of this I am often criticised for my behaviour and reactions to things (especially with men) and this meant I was insecure, dependent upon my mother's advice and always felt I have behaved inappropriately. When I started to tell you things that I thought or felt about situations you made me see that my reactions were justified and to be proud of standing up for what I believe in. Now when I have an insecure moment and think 'should I have done that?' I remember how you taught me to have confidence in my perceptions and feelings and I no longer feel insecure or guilty about these.
I've also learned to respect myself and feel I have regained my dignity. For a couple of years I had lost my confidence and allowed people to push me around and this resulted in a constant erosion of my pride and dignity. You've taught me how to value myself again and because of that I feel proud".

Q2: Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

"Absolutely and I have done already, lol. You are very warm and non-judgemental and this meant I felt I could be vulnerable with you and really tell you what I was feeling. This was of course central to the success of the therapy. I really liked the fact that you would talk about some of your own experiences and these gave me comfort as I then knew that how I was feeling wasn't crazy at all. It also showed me that you had a lot of life experience to draw from and this is crucial. I would not have enjoyed talking with a therapist who could not relate on some level to what I was talking about. However, whilst you are open to being vulnerable in our sessions I could also see your inner strength and I felt like I could rely on you for support. You are clearly a wonderful person, a diamond in the dust, and you helped me see the light in one of the darkest times of my life".
 
Date of Posting: 15 December 2015
Posted By: K.C.
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any key standout moments?

"This is not an exhaustive list. Over the past year I have developed, matured, and learnt more than I thought was possible. With your help and support I have allowed myself to explore the pain of losing my father at a young age, along with a multitude of other issues. This process has taught me a lot of valuable lessons that I will take with me. I have learnt the only way to deal with emotions is to listen to, and process them, as opposed to repressing them. I have learned to listen to my inner child, not be so self critical and disassociate myself with any problems I may face. I have learnt not to project or catastrophise situations, enabling myself to look at things with a cooler head without flying off the handle. Finally, I have learnt that only I have the power to cause myself undue stress and anxiety, and that is something I can control".

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

"I can not describe the impact that the work we have done together has made on my life. 12 months ago my anxiety was ruining my life, now I feel like a different person. From my first session I felt comfortable telling you things I had never spoken to anyone about. The fact that you too have overcome your own challenges and are comfortable sharing this has made my own experience a lot more bearable during the tough times. I can honestly say that I have never met anyone who understands me as well as you do and will miss our sessions together".
 
Date of Posting: 14 December 2015
Posted By: Alex, B.
Teesside
Q1. What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key standout moments?

"It's so difficult to summarise in a few sentences just how important the last 18 months have been. When I arrived, there were feelings of shame, disgust and confusion about myself and my future. Your immediate acceptance of me as a person and what was going on at the time has allowed continuing progress to take place to the point where I've allowed a close family member into what has been a very difficult part of my life....never in a million years would I think I was capable of doing something like that. I project far less, I am able to take a step back and see why or what is going on but most importantly you taught me to trust relationships and trust myself to be able to work through rifts in a relationship (there were a few). I have achieved incredible things professionally thanks to your support and can now treat myself with kindness instead of continuing down pathways of self destruction to manage distress. As I now embark on the next journey in my life, I am sure there will be continuing challenges however I am confident that I am far more resourceful and carry far less shame to allow me to embrace whatever new memories I start to create".

Q2. Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

"You listen to understand, not just to respond, and your understanding of me as a person and what was sometimes going on in the room was always pretty much spot on. Your warmth, kindness and human approach was refreshing, and always worked without judgements; even when I brought loads! You promote hard work in and out of the therapy room and when sensing avoidance give the challenges that are needed to ensure that the most is gained from each session! You see the best and encourage the best and I can't imagine having not had the honour to have worked with you.
It doesn't really do justice to what has gone on in the last 18 months but I just hope you know how special you are to me, I will miss you greatly! Thanks for being scrappy!!"
 
Date of Posting: 10 November 2015
Posted By: Mark, T.
Teesside
"Well I am unwrapping into a different journey, and that is because you have helped me to unwrap my inner hurt, the hidden places that I did not want to let go of, because they felt familiar and safe. NOW...I am taking risks, risks with myself and others. I am learning that I can be assertive and voice my needs and not feel guilty about them. This will be a continued journey; Rome was not built in a day!!! But I know I have the confidence to take risks and on the days where it is lacking I will endeavour to take care of myself, not dwell on my thoughts and accept this is also a part of me and tomorrow is a new day. I will remember the clock face technique and imagine 'you' singing 'Born to fight' at 'half past the hour' as part of my support network.
Alex my sentiments in this letter are my honest thoughts and feelings as to how I have found our therapeutic relationship together. Your genuine humanness and warmth has helped me to trust you, enabling me to un-wrap my hidden self, at times that has been incredibly hard, and at times I have felt at the depths of despair, but I knew you supported me through the process. You challenged me where needed in a gentle way, helping me to see that challenge is 'OK' Thank you for that. You have at all times shown professionalism and expertise and have always been accurate with your interventions. These qualities will serve you well with clients and I believe are an essential part of any therapeutic relationship and are at times so lacking in any helping relationships.
I wish you with all sincerity continued success in your career and your personal life; I have and will continue to recommend you as a therapist as I am sure you will help many other people to "un-wrap" their hidden selves and move forward in their lives. I look forward to one day maybe reading your books and attend your workshops! As you have a lot to offer Alex, to other professionals and people who need a 'listening ear' and a 'warm heart'. Thank you again for MY help!
 
Date of Posting: 21 October 2015
Posted By: S. S.
North Yorkshire
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work?
"I have gained increased tolerance. Over the years I would kick off at the drop of a hat, I think about the situation now and as you said to me I can choose whether I am more interested in being right, or getting it right. That's been massive for me on a daily basis and applying it to my relationship with my family I have seen big shifts in the right direction. I'm realising that there's lots of things in life that I don't need to worry about. I spent my life worrying about so many things, now I can put my mind to sitting alongside my anxieties and ride them out. I have a spring in my step now, I'm having happy thoughts that no longer get blasted straight down by 5 negative thoughts. My relationship with my son has improved so much and the change in me is also rubbing off on others dramatically. It's been amazing speaking to someone like you."

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?
"Yes. I have never done anything like this before and from the first minute I met you I felt completely relaxed, I felt I could tell you everything and I have, I have never hidden anything in here I've just went for it. I'm not sure whether its your manner and the ease you have or because we are men of similar ages but I remember driving back home after our first session knowing I was in the right place with the right person."
 
Date of Posting: 08 October 2015
Posted By: G.S.
North East
Question 1
What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key standout moments?

"What I've learned is to express my feelings which is a hell of a difference from when I used to build them up and then blow. I don't let things build up now, I take a minute to think, whereas before I'd fly off the handle like a firework. I use what I've learned daily. The way we've worked has also been at my pace, and my choice which I have really enjoyed. I've learned that its not a sign of weakness to express your emotions because your an ex soldier and ex policeman. I'm glad I asked for help".

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

"Obviously yes. It's quite strange what happened. I went on counselling directory and there was a lot of choice, but you stood out for me, there was something about you. I asked my wife to search too and tell me who she thought I should go with, she looked through them all and said, this one, which was you and that sealed it. I think your therapy room is fantastic too, homely which made me feel at ease, with loads of space. You have a nice easy manner and our lives have been very similar at times. One of the toughest things for me to do is to show weakness which wasn't a problem for me around you. I also liked how you asked me what I would like to deal with, and in what order allowing me to ease into the demons. I remember feeling so much lighter after we had worked on the biggest one, I could feel the change as I walked out of the door."


 
Date of Posting: 20 September 2015
Posted By: Andrew
Teesside
Question 1
What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any standout moments?
"Emotions. I have learned to listen to them more and by doing so gain more control over them. I was coming out of depression with my fathers death, and before you I couldn't talk openly about Dad, now I can. I've learned through you and the P.A.C model to recognise and take care of my needs as they arise. The anger work was a superb release valve, helping me to identify and let go of my anger. I am taking away techniques to help me cope with life, like the pictures you made for me that I still use to ground myself and stay in the present. I use our techniques before meetings now and always go in a lot calmer. I also remember how accurate your intuition and summations were of my true feelings in the role play, you could play my feelings and speak my thoughts to a tee. I can now talk about life more openly, and feel more fully. I am a more confident man and not just in my job but in all areas of my life."

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?
100 percent yes. In my lifetime I have never known a person listen so carefully to what I had been through and I was amazed at how you addressed my feelings and in particular my childhood. I think that you are very very conscious of how people are and so understanding. I just think your a top guy to work with. I would recommend you for any form of therapy , your the only person in my life that I have been able to talk 100 percent honestly with and doing so has made me a better man."
 
Date of Posting: 19 July 2015
Posted By: Mark W.
teesside
What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

"I thought I knew myself, but didn’t. The sessions dug up some surprising things about “the inner me” and my coping methods. Some good, but some to work at if I am to keep my equilibrium as a long-term Carer. I am extremely grateful for Alex’s insight into my past experiences, looking from a complete new perspective and with compassion".

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

"Yes, I would. I came out of this feeling worthy and determined, and learnt that if I look out for myself first, then I‘ll be able to look out for the both of us, and we’ll be better for it. The point “Let there be space in your togetherness” really hit home. Altogether, it was an enriching experience that will stay with me for a long time".
 
Date of Posting: 30 June 2015
Posted By: C. S.
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?
"The main thing is I understand more now, that my problems affect other people too. I don't feel alone anymore which has lifted me."

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?
"Yes Its worked in only four sessions with this last one to go. I thought of a therapist and imagined, condescending, but your not. Your explanations are easy for me to take on board because you talk in my language. Without even asking you you just hit the nail right on the head."
 
Date of Posting: 24 June 2015
Posted By: D. A.
Teesside
Question 1
What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?
"I'd say I have realised I am not a victim anymore, and I have new healthier ways of coping with anxiety. I've learned I need to do more outside of work, hobbies and stuff like that to find more balance. I have also realised that I can still act reluctantly to being as honest as I could be, which I've learned is an adjustment I have held onto from the past that is still holding me back now."

Question 2
Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?
"Yes I would. You have given me a new perspective, a different way of looking at things. This has been different to the therapy I have had before which was more about teaching me to be more assertive. Now I have found the answers as to why I have held back so long and not been assertive."
 
Date of Posting: 24 June 2015
Posted By: S. A.
Teesside

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