Client Feedback

Your input is important to me. Please provide your valuable feedback. Here are some testimonials from
my past and present clients

Q1 What, if anything, have you learned about yourself, or gained over the duration of our work together. And where there any key-standout moments?

“I have learned to trust my instincts, believe in myself, stand up, take control, look out for red flags and take action, minimise contact and communication with toxic people (damage limitation). Life is, what it is but deal with life’s issues as they happen and learn from life’s mistakes, as no one is perfect. We are born equal and should be treat equal but this is not always the case. An outstanding moment for me was when I turned the corner and properly used the tools in my toolbox provided by yourself to make myself become a better and stronger version of who I am and then later to be able to help others close to me in similar ways but aware not to be caught in the drama triangle”.

Q2 Was there anything you would have liked more of, or less of from me over the duration of our work together?

“Probably more face-to-face sessions, as I believe I would have got more out of the sessions but covid restrictions made it difficult not impossible”.

Q3 Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Yes because of your professionalism, understanding, life’s experiences and how good you are to work with, as I would say you are the type of psychotherapist and counselor who has real life experiences (not just out of a text book) and who can relate to individuals personal situations, feelings and emotions, therefore making the therapy real, practical and helpful for now and the future. Also you don’t just deal with the here and now but drive to the root cause”.

Posted By: Andrew, S

North East

Question 1 – If anything, have you learned about yourself or gained over the duration of our work together and were there any key standout moments?

This is a big question for me, one which I don’t quite know how to articulate in a way to really depict the importance and impact of our four-year journey to encapsulate the therapeutic work.

I know that I have learned so much from the work and gained so much insight into my process, my sense of self, my beliefs as well as my fire starter behaviours. The learning of why I would behave in a certain way, as well as repeating the same patterns and games insightful and at times painful to come to terms with. Ultimately my insecurities and shame were at the origin of it all. I had been missed my whole life and was lost for a very long time, I didn’t know who I was, there were no robust compasses to guide me, until you. Alex, you saw all of me, and my potential to grow into a less wounded version of me, that has more to offer than just the auld sledge hammer….

My insecure base led to many challenges with relationships, as my insecurity to be intimate with relationships scared me, so my go to would be to deflect and become persecutory to find ways to end relationships. So many times, I yearned for intimate relationships, but I just didn’t know how to do it. I’ve gained so much from our developmental work in the therapy. It has been fundamental in shaping me to feel more secure and know my worth which is serving me better. This takes me to the metaphor you shared with me many times, and I now feel I have embraced it’s understanding. This being; “don’t give from the well, give from the bucket”.

I have more knowing, that I can achieve great things in a way that’s healthier with keeping my own needs at the forefront, than given too much of my energy to others. I am still learning about the power and depth of vulnerability and that it is okay to show your vulnerabilities and ask for help. Not something I was very good at before. Whereas now, I’m able to look at the situation and think okay what help do I need. It is still a work in progress, although I am proud of me and the progress made.

I have also built around me, great anchors of support where I can be me and all of me is accepted, every version. There are still bumps and at times it can be a bit challenging for me, but by just having those intimate relationships, is huge for me as well as great progress. Alex, you have been influential in helping me navigate the doing, you planted the seeds and helped me grow with applying the nurture and time that I needed.

So yeah, I feel really proud of me, proud of us and proud of the therapeutic work that has been achieved. Today is all about new chapters, and taking forward what I have learned from the therapy. I have introjected a whole lot of the goodness from our transferential relationship. Which will serve me well as; as a mom, as a wife a friend and also as a trainee therapist.

Questions 1 – Key standout moments

There has been so many stand out moments, remembering them the harder part as my ability to record and retain is not the greatest. But as I write this, there is deep knowing those moments have been internalised, I feel it more than being able recall the exact moments.

The understanding of the drama triangle, and my dominant role to rescue and learning the why, was a double edge sword for me. It was such a revelation as well as with so painful to sit with at times. The knowing why I needed to rescue being because nobody rescued me when I needed it most.

The use of metaphors in the work have been a such beneficial intervention in helping me make sense of the here and now, especially when I wasn’t always firing from all cylinders.

We did have some ruptures in our journey, I now know that rupture and repair are fundamental in building relationships worth having. Our most recent rupture, you asked me to not end the relationship, my younger self so wanted to. As I reflect, to have done that, would have been a step backwards along with stepping back into my old script patterns. I stuck it out, and I am so glad I did, as again it was fundamental in my development. It also heightened my inner nurturing parent for myself, I am far better and looking after myself than keeping it contained. `My younger self would manifest and push it down, then project onto others and look to persecute and start fuck off fires.

What has been key, is that you were always there for me, every version of me, when I needed it the most, the darkest and toughest of times as well as the good and celebratory milestones. You showed and modelled to me what I had missed out on my whole life.

Question 2 – was there anything you would have liked more of, or less of, from me over the duration of our work together.

(mmmmmm less half nakedness in the bucket pops, PMSL!!!) On a more serious note, you have always been very generous in sharing your story, your authenticity I have always found inspiring and admirable. I found great comfort from how genuine and transparent you were from our very first session.

At times, I felt flooded in the moment with little space to process. Perhaps, more space in those moments to allow my introverted self to process I think may have lessened that flooding. As our relationship developed we did find our regulated rhythm.

As I develop my sense of self as a therapist, the use of self and authenticity is so important for me to bring to the therapeutic work, which is from having that shown to me. The sheer potency of having the courage to be authentic is lacking at times within this field.

Question 3 – Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

When I read this question, I found myself got straight to a defensive place, in thinking I certainly would recommend you in a heartbeat, then I felt a part of me go to a place of, well they have to be worthy of your time and effort. I think it was my Child not wanting to share me pops, lol!

I would recommend therapy with you, for the reason that you put all of you into the work, you really do, always present, authentic and honest. The therapy has been fundamental in shaping this chapter of my life, I will always be forever in your debt.

Four years ago, I was consumed in the depths and darkness of mental illness, the realisation torturous. The shame squeezing my innards so tight I was lifeless and took shelter under the duvet. The treacle so heavy, I was drowning. An anchor was sent my way to help bear the weight and keep me afloat. The anchor instilled seeds of life, that led to prosperity as well as guidance towards new seas to swim.

Posted By: Client

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together? And were there any standout moments?

“I have gone from not accepting what had happened to accepting it. My feelings towards K have eased and I don’t crave her attention/love anywhere near what I used to. I understand that now and feel I’ve learnt how to deal with the past with a more open mind. It has happened and I have to move forward”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would definitely recommend you. Your attention to detail and how you broke things down worked for me. I also, even though it was hard to hear at times liked your occasional bluntness. You assessing some of the things I was experiencing in a certain tone opened my eyes to things. I also felt that you felt my pain too at what I was going through. It gave me some real comfort and I can’t thank you enough”.

Date of Posting: 18 February 2021

Posted By: Matt

South of England

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and were there any key/standout moments?

“Before coming to you I would be sympathetic to people who were struggling mentally but I had a give yourself a kick up the arse and get on with it attitude.

Since therapy I now understand better mental health and show sympathy with a knowledge of why some people cannot cope.

A stand out moment was how you could see behind the mask I put on for people”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Absolutely I would recommend you.

A family member told me to contact you with the words

“He will take you to some hard places and if that’s not what you want then choose another therapist “ And he was right but I am so pleased I did contact you.

Thanks I know where you are if I need help again”.

Posted By: Sarah, H.

North East

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and where there any key/standout moments ?

“I have learnt that things aren’t always my fault as I used to quickly believe. A key moment was when you challenged me on the choices I make, I know now it’s a case of sitting back and reflecting over the whole situation without the ready made judgements I used to have about myself that sent me downwards. I also liked how you kept me in the present, the here and now as you called it. I used to either dwell in the past or worry about the future. I remind myself often now that it’s about today and only today”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“yes I would recommend you to anyone as I feel like you have made me a better person. Thank you”.

Posted By: Lewis

Tyne and Wear

What if anything, have I learnt….. LOTS!

In short I have learnt your past does not have to define your future.

Your environment (people and situations) can poison your body but it is possible to expel that and stop it affecting you as long as you are aware.

Being governed by old patterns is harmful but it’s possible to stop them

Your thoughts are not necessarily your friend!!

Key stand out moment……..

Realising I am living a more conscious life, and that I am catching myself before slipping into old worn patterns of behaviour.

Finding my spark and energy was back, not feeling like the old worn out woman as I did last year

Major moment was when I found I was asking myself – why are you doing this? What are you wanting to achieve from this? Should you be doing this?

Would I recommend therapy with you…..

YES!!!! Unless you want ‘tea and sympathy’ or an easy ride then maybe not ?

and why……

I would never have got to a place of peace, happiness and contentment without the work we have done over the last year.

The challenges made of me really ensured I examined what I was doing and why.

I feel I will take these lessons forward through the next phase of my life (and if I have any new issues I know where you live!!!)

Posted By: J, B.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and were there any key/standout moments?

“I think I have learned I can stick up for myself without it coming across as a negative. I didn’t realise how little I’d dealt with being bullied as a child. It’s given me an inner strength I didn’t know I possessed”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

“Absolutely recommend therapy with yourself. Why? You’ve got a real ability to go to the root of the problem, whether I think there’s one or not, you’ve got a real way about you (not sure how to word that any better off the cuff) I’ve certainly gained a lot more from these therapy sessions than I actually thought I would”.

Posted By: K S

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and were there any key/standout moments?

“I think the main thing I’ve learned about my preconceptions before starting therapy is that there needs to be a definitive answer, solution. Sometimes accepting things can really shed some light on things I didn’t feel were connected. You’ve got straight to the point and went through my past and tied things into my present with the theory explaining that. I’ve looked at these things and accepted that they play a part in how I am and who I am. I can choose how I am in the here and now. The drama triangle was a standout, realising how events bounce around without escape was big, accepting that and understanding that was powerful. Actually realising and knowing this is what I’m doing, and this is what will come from that, you used “that’s not for me” regularly which took me a while to get my head around. What you meant was I’m not willing to accept this because there’s other ways I can go about this. I don’t need to carry that weight. It’s helped me to have a different view on almost everything, day to day interactions. Transference was also useful, explaining how that can have an effect on how we see and are seen. I’m aware that my triggers haven’t necessarily changed but how I see them has in a positive way, giving me more choice and freedom. For me the acceptance part as well, when people have talked to me about therapy a lot of it has been acceptance that you can get yourself into cycles, and you can take one step outside of it to be removed and say “what was I doing”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

“Absolutely again you’ve commented a little bit about feedback, the stigma men have, I was absolutely that guy, I’ve not understood the idea of therapy, I’d tried CBT so I had a reference point I’d seen a different style. The way I’ve tried to describe how I feel and why it’s not the same for everyone. Your mind sees the cage, the lock is on the outside and you’ve helped me unlock it. Your own personal style, I can imagine not everyone goes around it the way you do, which isn’t negative or positive. I thought it would be a lot more formal, a bit like in the movies. It’s been far more ‘in conversation’ planned but loose and I’d say it takes a couple of sessions to be able to feel comfortable in speaking to someone about things that you’ve never spoke about and to see how these methods are working. I wanted to come but there was anxiety. I came to look forward to Tuesdays to see what I’d learn next, to unlock that cage and make it a bit wider.

I did expect my therapist to throw the odd swear word in, to tell me about your own experiences, that threw me a little bit. But it has helped, because opening up is easier when others open up to you. That two way thing is eased when someone else will do the same in some degree. Good friends are people who tell each other things. I don’t feel as judged as I’m other relationships”.

Posted By: N W

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and were there any key/standout moments?

“What was key for me was the chain of events following our accident. I’ve learned It’s OK to not feel OK. It is what it is now, and what happened no longer controls me. I accept what happens, I’m no longer ruled by it.

The practical breathing Excercise’s we started with was helpful straight away in grounding me, it gave me a platform to work from.

The biggest standout moment for me was talking about the accident, I felt really rubbish after, like a watershed moment. Then I came through it and learned I didn’t need to lock it away constantly. I cried here, pushing it away hadn’t done me any good. Even walking through the door was a major step forward for me”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Definitely. It’s absolutely worked for me. I’ve lost what I thought it would be like. You’ve probed and got things out of me that were holding me back and it’s been much more conversational than I though it would be. You tackle things head on. Without hesitation I’d say ‘go and speak to Alex’.

Posted By: Ed O

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together. And were there any key/standout moments?

“Alex has shown me that I am a much stronger person than I thought I was. He’s shown me how to deal with certain issues and I have a newly gained confidence in myself.

In particular a key standout moment was when we did roleplay to help me understand some situations and it really did answer a lot of questions for me… apart from the fact that I would never ever have pictured myself ever having the guts to agree to do roleplay ever ! But it really does help and I’m so glad I did it”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would recommend Alex as a therapist because he fully made me feel at ease from our very first meeting, he is professional and he has a kind and understanding aura about him, there is always a cuppa on hand and an endless supply of tissues. !!

Thank you so very much Alex, you’ve shown me who I really am and gave me guidance through some exceptionally difficult times, for this I will be eternally grateful. Thank you”.

Posted By: Kath W

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together. And where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve realised how much I am not in control of my own life and have gained the ability to be able to look at myself and assess how I’m feeling and what my actions are doing to myself and those around me in more depth. I’ve realised I bring a hell of a lot of stress in to my life that makes me miserable and effects my mental health.

There’s parts of me that are very selfish and I’ve lost my empathy for others to the point where I can feel nothing at all for someone I had a massive connection with an hour earlier.

Social anxiety was something I thought I’d just have to live with and I abused alcohol to relieve that as well as using it to mask any stress in my life. I found the social anxiety suprisingly easy to deal with which has helped me cut down drinking a lot. I still find myself drinking more than I should, but I’m keeping an eye on it and trying to create a different behaviour pattern if I find myself in a situation where drinking is expected or encouraged.

I thought I was strong by being able to walk away from a relationship in the past, but I’ve realised it takes a stronger person to face up to a problem and resolve it. I’m realising that when I am stressed I am more prone to walking away and sticking two fingers up at the problem. I can now look at this pattern and be more in control of the situation.

My relationship with my current girlfriend has become a lot easier for both myself and for her due to our therapy.

I’ve not felt I’ve learned a great deal or gained many new behaviours from our sessions, but my life is changing for the better and I realise I am on the right path now…also someone recently said to me “When you say the word ‘but’ it wipes out what you’ve said before it”. (You) So I’m now looking at the future with different eyes, re-assessing myself and hopefully coming back after a break with a refreshed view of what I need to work on to continue bettering myself”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, after reading about you on a webpage I got the impression I’d be able to ask you to be tough with me and kick me in to shape a bit. I knew I’d try and pull the wool over your eyes so warned you about this at the start.

We soon created a connection I was happy with and you helped me through some things I was struggling with and opened my eyes to some things I didn’t realise I was struggling with.

You like a challenge and have a passion for your work. You’re polite and easy to talk to even for someone with issues talking about their problems.

You have a great place to talk that is comfortable, private and makes you feel at home.

This was my first time using a therapist and I would highly reccommend Alex to anyone thinking of trying it”.

Posted By: Rob

Teesside

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

I’ve learned I have to not take on other people’s problems and let them make their own mistakes. Let things take there own course, what will be will be. Don’t be ashamed to talk with others about your problems and talk up for yourself if people run you down regarding your state of mind. I realise how much I have taken on over my life so far and how strong I have been over the years.

Important point I still love my parents so very much and talking to my dad with you in role play I am so proud of him for thanking me in trying to save his life”

Question 2
I would highly recommend you to anybody I cross paths with who is in a bad situation, you are a true professional. The most important thing is your own life experience that you can draw upon and your caring attitude to me and others.

I can only thank you for saving me from self destruction you gave me the tools, positive thoughts and courage to get on with my life. I thank you again.

I won’t hesitate to call you if I start to drift back in that dark place.

Love to you and your family

Warmly Ian xx”

Cleveland

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve gained some communication skills, I’m better able to talk to people about my problems. Better resolution skills. Stopped being so harsh on myself. Doing the anger work with the baseball bat really stood out for me, I felt like I’d never been able to let stuff out, that took a lot of weight off my shoulders. I feel like I don’t have to be defined by my past and I can grow and learn and shit. Being able to communicate what I want and don’t want held me back in the past, with my new partner now I’m a lot better at expressing myself. Another point that stood out for me was when you pointed out how much I clammed up and how hard you had to work because of that. I took that point and worked harder in here and now I do the same when I’m out of the therapy room with people”.

Question 2

“Yeah I would because it’s helped me a lot to deal with stuff in my life and it’s give me more confidence. Again I bottle less up now and express myself more clearly. A lot of the time before by not saying much I was kind of being dishonest, some of the things I left out or didn’t say, were important to me and others, now I can ask them what they want and tell them what I want. It feels like I’m being more direct and more honest.

N. W.

Stockton-on-Tees

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve gained discipline, maturity and more honesty with myself and others. I’m also more confident and relaxed in general.

A standout moment was when we were working on possible relationships and I said I’m looking for a 9 and ideally a 10 based on looks. You asked what I thought I was. I said a 9, you disagreed and said you thought I was a 7 with a potential of being an 8 if I worked hard at it. I didn’t like hearing that, but yes I was objectifying others and dismissing my own shortfalls. You’re very direct and honest, I needed that.

I’ve been off the alcohol now for nearly a year, lost two stone, sharpened up all round, you’ve challenged me to put myself out there to better my social skills and I’ve took on the challenge. I’ve been to cookery classes, dancing lessons, kickboxing classes and kept it all up building relationships along the way and learning new skills.

I’m less selfish now, I think before I act impulsively, and wonder how others might be affected. I’m also better at handling conflict, probably because of your challenging style and my kickboxing sessions where I get a lot of frustration and anger out. And the role play, I’ve got a lot out of that.

You don’t tell people what they want to hear, I haven’t had much of that and the times that I have I’ve either kicked off or ran away. Being an only child with an overprotective mother probably made my skin too thin, I could have done with some siblings to bounce off. You’ve been like that big brother or Dad. Firm but fair.”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes I would, for all of the above reasons. I like myself more now and my life is fuller. I’ll miss you and I’ll miss coming and if I need too, I won’t be too proud to come back for help again. Thank you”.

Posted By: Andrew

Stockton-on-Tees

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“Without wanting to sound too dramatic I survived my own personal holocaust. I was surprised at how much I was taken in by other men because I was so desperate. I remember the day I was in here and in my head absolutely flipped, not knowing whether I would or could come back, it was a massive turning point, I kept feeling the spike and the dips. I remember you asking ‘how old I felt right now’ and then saying ‘you’re acting like a spoilt kid throwing all the toys out the Pram and books off the shelf, what would your adult say to your kid?’ it felt like a slap in the face and a real waking moment. Looking back it all seems so unreal, I’ve learnt so much including not judging myself so harshly. What happened was a living nightmare.

I know I’ve lost some friendships through it, I’ve had to withdraw from some people which happens when battle lines are drawn.

I’m way happier in my own company than I ever imagined I could be, and I now have a new healthy relationship where I can enjoy male company in a way I thought was impossible.

Despite pressure and temptation I was determined not to be a man hater as that would only hurt me.

I’m employed again, Solvent and capable of having healthy relationships with both sexes. I can also be vulnerable and not be fearful of falling apart.

I realise now I never ever knew the man I was married too. All the things I brushed off came back to haunt me, and in the end I chose not to live a lie. I’ve invested in myself with you and it’s money well spent.

I know now I do deserve more, I like company but I don’t need it. I’m comfortable in my own skin. I’m a better listener to my friends now too and have shared my story with women’s groups which they tell me they’ve found inspiring”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, like I even had to say to my panicking GP who put a safeguarding call in on me! You were recommended to me a long time ago, she said you’re very tough, clever, direct, and don’t take any shit. She said there’s nothing I could throw at you that would surprise you ‘he’s been around the block to places other therapists couldn’t begin to understand’ I needed that, I’ve met the others, the twin set and pearls therapists and academics who I’ve had to minimise myself and my experiences with, or the ones who just try to medicate you. I needed somebody who knew the dark side to get me out of the one I’d been put in. You need people with life experience, you’ve got a lot of it and you can’t buy that or learn it, unless you’ve lived it.

You’re probably the most unlikely therapist in the world, there’d be people I wouldn’t dare send to you, not without warning them”.

Posted By: Julie

Middlesbrough

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together. And where there any stand out/key moments?

“There were many standout moments. First time I met you, I was in a position that life wasn’t worth anything. Each session I could feel that feeling going away, making me want to come back and infact aching to come back to see you another day. Everyone wants be positive and each session I left more positive. I have learnt from all your sessions, there is a purpose in everyone’s life, mine is to help, in one way or other and you showed me the way”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

“You are the only therapist I know who takes personal interest in your clients. I call me client, but I never got that feeling. Infact I felt you never considered me just a client. Once I even saw a tear in your eye as I was talking. It’s the human element that makes you unique. That’s why I d recommend you, whoever goes to Alex, stick with him for a few sessions, you ll know the difference then”.

Posted By: S.K.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained-learned about yourself over the duration of our work together. And where there any key/standout moments?

“I’ve learned that I’m the person in the wrong in all of this, I shouldn’t have been passing the blame like I have in the past. Standout moment was when I called the trouble I caused a pebble in a pond and you said it was more like a fucking paving slab! I realise that now and I’m dealing with it. I also learned that I’m able to be less angry than before and less stressed with all the talk and techniques you’ve taught me. Like you said 1% better a week adds up over time, I got more than that and I’m headed in the right direction”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes. Firstly I haven’t been scared to tell you anything from the first time I met you. It felt like we were both similar fellas, I knew you could take anything on board. I don’t think I’d have been able to say the same things to a woman sat there, not at that depth. Also you’ve never patronised me, I say something and you put a metaphor or analogy to it, to make me see it in an easier and deeper way for me to understand. And regarding my speech, it’s a big thing, you never interrupt. I find it hard to speak to people normally. I could take half an hour to finish a sentence and you’d sit there and let me. I’ve felt so comfortable in that way with you.

It’s also like you’ve always been trying to put things into place for me, whether it’s Jiu Jitsu, and the couples therapy you’ve mixed into our sessions for me. You’re looking out for me going forward, which I really appreciate. I think I’ll really miss coming here either way I’ll keep rolling forward just like in my G.A meetings”.

Posted By: Craig

Redcar and Cleveland

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself, or gained over the duration of our work together. And were there any key-standout moments?

“I gained more of an understanding about why I react to certain things better meaning in general life I can catch myself doing it and avoid it. A standout moment was discussing the different sides to my personality and why they exist and also that it’s not a bad thing”.

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would recommend therapy with you to other people because nothing I said resulted in me feeling like there was no point to saying it and I was able to fully open up and take on board your suggestions for me because I knew they’d actually be helpful”.

Posted By: T.M.

North Yorkshire

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself, or gained over the duration of our work together. And where there any key-standout moments?

“Definitely a lot more understanding, I’m also a lot softer with myself now, I was expecting perfection without cutting myself slack. I’ve also got a lot more understanding of my physiology, how we work as humans, learning about my body responses to emotional stimuli has been massive. I’m a lot more informed of what and why my body and mind were out of sync. I had a narrow opinion of ‘talking therapy’ but this experience has certainly broke the barriers I had and opened my eyes”.

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Definitely, you are extremely knowledgable and personable, there are very few holes in you. You also make very good connections tied in with life experience, I got the sense you’d been there and done it and I felt you were right there with me all the way”.

Posted By: Gary

Teesside

Question 1

What if anything, have you learned or gained over the duration of our work together and were there any key-standout moments?

“I have worked with Alex for several years. The first point of seeking help for any life issues is choosing the right counsellor. I searched and trialled a few in the North East and then met Alex and life started to “click”.

The first thing I learnt is that its ok to have issues and nobody is perfect provided you are prepared to try and address them. Alex provided a great environment for me to be start to understand myself.

There were many standout moments but the one that was key for me was understanding my childhood and upbringing and the attachment issues I had which manifest in my adult life. This key understanding helps me today to develop my own personal and professional relationships.

I used to think everything was black and white (right or wrong) but actually there are so many aspects of life that are grey and its ok to live in the grey zone from time to time. Not everything needs to be fixed straight away !”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I have absolutely no hesitation whatsoever in recommending you. You have helped me in so many ways and transformed my life for the better in giving me the skills to deal with everyday life and make my relationships full in every way. Huge thank you for providing a shining light in my life when I most needed it.”

Posted By: Mark

Teesside

Question 1

What if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key/specific stand out moments?

“Finding You as a Therapist was the best thing that could of happened for me when I was at the lowest time in my life. Your professionalism, care and knowledge was what supported and got me through something I never thought I would. I thought therapy was for “crazy people” but I come to learn in actual fact it is far from that, and it can actually be your saviour if you find the right therapist. My journey has been a long, hard, very sad challenging one but I have got through it all and I have came out such a strong person.

One thing that stood out to me was your persistence when I was ready to give up. You seen how scared my feelings were making me and how much I doubted myself, yet you never let me believe anything other than my strength and belief would get me through and in the end it did.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would absolutely one million percent recommend therapy with you.

Why…

because you are an amazing therapist who has a positive outlook on life, a knowledge of what a therapist consists of and are someone who teaches that you should always stand up for what you believe. You are strong and passionate and have a big heart. I owe so much to you for what you have done for me as my Therapist. I know that if it hadn’t of been for your patience, guidance and support my story might of ended a lot differently. Thank you for just been you”.

Posted By: J

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained-learned about yourself over the duration of our work together and where there any key/standout moments?

“We have worked together for over two years and I’ve learned invaluable life skills throughout that time. I manage my time and energy much more effectively now, in relation to business, relationships, friendships, and myself. I take time for myself without feeling guilty, and I communicate much better with those close to me in order for them to understand what’s going on somedays.

* The ‘drama triangle’ is a key standout moment to me, I fast read situations and make sure i predominantly stay on my ‘healthy triangle’.

The EMDR work that we did together was another key moment for me, and I now use the principle of it to destress when I feel overwhelmed.

At first when you suggested ‘role-play’, I thought ‘oh nooo I can’t do that’, but you helped me get into it and I really do encourage people to try it, because it got me through some of my most difficult times when I felt I didn’t have the strength to get my voice heard, you helped me find my voice and gave me my ‘safe place’ where I felt free and secure enough to let myself go. It also helped me to stop my mind from spiralling with worry over encounters or conversations.

I’ve learned so much about my childhood and attachments that I feel I can now enjoy my present and move forward in the most healthiest ways.

There’s so much I could write about what I’ve learned but the key most important thing you have taught me is to be balanced, informed, powerful, and vulnerable when I need to be too”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Over the years I have already recommended you to people and I will continue to do so.

Why?…because you have helped me through my hardest and darkest of times, you’ve been my rock for over two years and I know that your door is always open to me. The relationship we have built over that time is unparalleled and so important to me. I will be seeing you in the future, even just as a check in, my safe place

Posted By: S

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

“I’ve learnt a lot about my relationship with my partner. We are now able to communicate much better. I am more considerate of his feelings. I also have a better understanding of how my childhood and early adulthood experiences have impacted on me and my attitude to life/people. I now allow myself to feel emotions and express those emotions rather than bottle them up. There are a few key moments from my therapy sessions. One being the importance of nutrition on the mind and body but also that for all you can psychologically “put things in a box” the body “keeps score” and this can manifest itself into physical symptoms”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would highly recommend working with Alex as he has a vast amount of knowledge and expertise in lots of areas. I’m in a much better place than I was thanks to the work I have done with Alex. When I’m ready to address other key areas in my life Alex will be the person I contact first.”

Posted By: Lisa

North East of England

What, if anything, have you gained-learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key/standout moments?

“I’ve learned a lot about myself and understanding other people points of view. The sessions have vastly improved the relationship of me and my father.”

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes I would recommend therapy with you, as your recommendations and advice help massively towards most issues I have”.

Posted By: Jack

North East of England

What, if anything, have you learned or gained over the duration of our work together. And where there any key-standout moments?

“Talking about the loss and using the techniques you’ve taught me I feel a lot more relaxed even getting into a car again, I found that really useful. I just feel better, being able to talk about what happened, I didn’t want to put all of that on to others around me, they’ve got enough on their plate, it wouldn’t be fair.

That Zen stuff you taught me too also let me slow things down and get out of my head, choose my thoughts. I can sleep now too, without waking up from the nightmares I’d been having.”

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yeah you’re easy to talk too. I feel relaxed in here with you and I’ve enjoyed coming. It’s just good, I didn’t know what to expect, I thought it would be very different and serious.

You’re really chilled out, that’s helped me chill too.”

Posted By: Jordan

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained-learned about yourself over the duration of our work together & were there any key-standout moments?

“I feel like I know how to de-stress, I see things differently to be honest. I think I’ve learned I don’t need as much input from my friends or partner, I can go the right way about things without being the hot headed one. I’ve learned that talking things through is a lot better than shouting or arguing. A standout moment for me is when you taught me the difference between process and content, and how to assess what people want from me, and not to fall for their traps. They don’t get to play me like that anymore”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, I would, because I think you have a lot of life experience and could relate to my feelings, in that sense you were perfect for me. And you taught me what caused me to be the way I was, particularly with the way I expressed anger, and that I could choose another way of expressing it without blowing up or denying it.

I can see a massive difference in the way I am”.

Posted By: Andy, G.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key/standout moments?

“Main one for me is keeping calm and not being led by my thoughts the way I used to be. Realising that I can choose to ignore my thoughts, and being taught how too, has allowed me to stop feeding the fire. I’m able to assess quicker now and not let myself spiral out of control. I’ve learned to look after myself better and not let my revs get above the 4.5 we worked on. I’m back hitting the gym hard and less wound which has stopped the negative knock on effect at home as well. I’m modelling the behaviour I want more of at home.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes. If you purely consider when I started to now and how much more relaxed, healthier, calmer and more in control of myself I am now it speaks volumes for our time. You’ve given me good advice, you have plenty of knowledge which has helped me understand why I’ve been having the thoughts I’d been having by explaining it to me simply, then offering solutions that will sustain the improvements long term.”

Posted By: Matty

Middlesbrough

Q1 What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key/standout moments?

“Since working with you I’ve changed, started training again, I’ve re-found it, went back to school too and keeping that up. Got on a lot better with my Dad too from you explaining things in a better way to me. I’ve now got a clearer vision of what I want to do and don’t want to do.”

Q2 Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yeah because I think the most important thing is you listened, and didn’t judge the book by its cover, you’ve listened and explained things clearer.”

Posted By: L.H.

Teesside

Q1: What, if anything, have you gained/learned about yourself over the duration of our work together? And where there any key/standout moments?

“I think recognising aspects of myself, dealing with my emotions. Keeping a reign on my tendency to let things get to me and go from calm to completely out of control. It has got me into a lot of trouble, I took on board what you said, choose your battles. Also coming to terms with my sexuality, being bisexual, you shone a light on that area and we revisited that side of me. I’m a more relaxed, balanced and happier person which is everything I wanted out of the sessions. Also since we did the EMDR I think it helped with many similar events in my life that have been life threatening. I was able to see big changes, typically I would avoid news about tragic events, now I have a choice to watch or turn off. It’s manageable. In retrospect it helped more than the memory we worked on in a weird way. I feel fine about that now”.

Q2: would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes I would. Why? You’ve helped me and you’ve got a sound grounding. I was sceptical about some of the things we’ve done, EMDR in particular, but you’ve proved me wrong.”.

Posted By: John

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together and where there any key-standout moments?

“I felt like when I first came I was lost, I didn’t understand who I was, or what I wanted from life. Since we’ve been working together I feel like my minds clear now on where I’m going. A standout moment for me was when you were challenging me to do things..I didn’t think I could do it, then I’d achieve it, and go for another challenge to help me grow as a person. Another standout for me is how much you care about me, for your clients, it’s not just the next chicken in the line”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, definitely. I came in with one issue and over the duration of our work other issues that I have in my life would pop up and I’d resolve them. I remember one particular issue that came up and I thought ‘what would Alex do?’ And then I’d apply that to my own voice and find the answer. You became my father figure, a brother, a friend that I keep in my mind to draw down on going forward”.

Posted By: A. P.

Teesside

Q1.

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together? And where there any key/standout moments?

“Patience, that’s a big one. Also more understanding of other people, understanding that they are not mind readers. Also allowing people to speak and not to be so serious about everything. I’ve also learned to be mindful of what other people are feeling instead of just my feelings, that’s really helped me and my partner. People have kept telling me I am different, more confident and open.

When I first came I was a bit ashamed, I’d put it off for years. I used to just snap, now I don’t, people tell me I’m mellow.”

Q2.

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Already have, I mean I never wanted to see a therapist, never mind trust a therapist with how stubborn I’ve been, I’ve already recommended you to several people. You’ve certainly changed my opinion on therapists. Thank you.”

Posted By: Daryl

Teesside

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any standout moments?

“How do I answer this in a short paragraph, there is so much to say. You’ve helped me to love and respect myself, focus on my needs and not give away all my energy to others. Our sessions helped me to see that my default has been the ‘rescuer/fixer’. With your help I’ve learnt how to resist throwing myself in to helping others to the detriment to myself, and to give from my bucket not my well.

I’ve learnt how to deal with difficult situations and not hold on to my emotions, pretending to everyone I had everything under control and I could keep going with my own issues and everyone else’s problems. I thought I was Superwoman, I was a workaholic, had high expectations of myself, in fast mode constantly and therefore able to deal with everything. I will now openly voice how I’m feeling and ask for help. I’ve learnt how to slow down and enjoy the moment. I can still hear you saying ‘slowly, slow down’. You made me see how my inner child still needed fun. I’m now much more aware of my inner child and have more fun, planning things into my day that I enjoy.

You have taught me a number of valuable techniques which I refer to regularly. “

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Absolutely and I already have recommended you. I openly talk about our sessions to family and friends, initially I was too proud and saw it as a weakness, I now realise it’s not a weakness it shows strength.

Always felt I could discuss everything, you made me feel I could be open and never judged me.

When I was looking for a therapist I was determined to speak to a male, I wanted someone to challenge me and not be all airy, fairy. Alex certainly met the criteria, he challenged me on a number of occasions.

You listened and shared your own experiences. I felt you genuinely cared for my well being and I’ve made a true friend.

Thank you for your support. I’m sure our paths will cross again.

Until I see you again, take care.

Posted By: Amanda

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together and where there any key-standout moments?

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

Posted By: A. P.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together and were there any key-standout moments?

“I feel like I have a better understanding of myself and how to deal with certain situations that I used to struggle with. An example of that is learning to step back to think about the consequences of my actions, and of how they may have an effect on myself or others around me.

The breakthrough we had in the first session stood out for me and gave me a clearer understanding, you brought the loose ends together. I feel like getting everything off my chest helped massively”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, what I liked about you most is that you challenged me, you weren’t afraid to be harsh in a positive way.

You’re not a nodding yes man, in a good way, you wouldn’t get the England managers job put it that way. They only employ yes men!”

Posted By: Jordan, M.

Teesside

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together and where there any key-standout moments?

“For me one of the main things I have gained is to feel rather than suppress. This gave me a new strength to accept my emotions but you also gave me the skills to manage them. I found the somatic symptoms difficult but through the exercises you taught me, I now feel I am able to deal with these feelings but also challenge myself. You gave me a safe place to cry and discuss the feelings others told me I shouldn’t be feeling. You helped me to understand the person I had become and why, that I’ll have to be mindful of the child within me as she will always be with me and that I should not ignore her but nurture her. You helped me make sense of it all which in turn, allowed me to start moving forward and making changes”.

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, I would recommend you and I already have. I found you approachable and I was at ease around you. I never felt judged and I could tell you anything. You have life experience and that teaches you way more than a text book. Thanks Alex”.

Posted By: K, B.

Teesside

Q-What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together, and where there any key-standout moments?

A-“Alex gave me clarity in what I was going through, and was able to pull apart the tangled mess in my mind to manageable pieces. There were some breakthrough moments for me that will help me for a long time going forward. I learnt to realise when anxiety is taking over and it’s just a physiological response rather than reality, and he taught me techniques to help bring me back to the present moment. He is incredibly insightful and has a great deal of knowledge to help with all sorts of issues”.

Q- Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

A-“I would definitely recommend Alex. You can tell he genuinely cares about helping you and making sure you’re getting the best from each session. I don’t think there’s much he wouldn’t be able to help with. He challenges your current beliefs and helps you think about things in a different perspective. He taught me lots of tools and different concepts and models that i’ll be able to apply to future situations”.

Posted By: Jen, S.

Teesside

Q1: What if anything have you gained over the duration of our work together? Where there any key/standout moments?

“I have gained my happiness back, a sense of freedom and can now control my emotions much easier. No longer do I feel like have the weight of the world of my shoulders with no way of getting it off. I can see clearer, I can concentrate and focus on tasks which I struggled to do previously. I no longer feel embarrassed to talk about what’s troubling/worrying me to close friends and family which I never thought I’d be able to do. Life now feels much simpler and brighter”.

Q2: would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would 100% recommend therapy with yourself.

I was made to feel at ease at all times. Always felt like you had time for me, I was never rushed in to explaining my thoughts/feelings and could tell from the very moment I stepped in to the room that you were genuinely interested in helping me, listening patiently to all my problems, providing explanations of my symptoms and suggesting productive ways of dealing with certain things.

Overall a very knowledgeable, helpful, patient and trustworthy therapist who I will always be thankful to for bringing out the old me’.

Posted By: Lee, L.

Teesside

Question 1

What if anything have you gained over the duration of our work together, and were there any key, standout moments?

“Yeah I think confidence in me and who I am is the biggest thing, because when I first came to see you that was the biggest issue that I had, I wasn’t sure who I was. I think even that little bit of me that thought I was somebody, I wasn’t confident in that and I think I very much thought that having the different characters within me wasn’t right. I thought that that was me not knowing who I was, but the big revelation is that I’m allowed to be these ‘different’ characters and that I now have the ability to chop and change between them to suit my situation. That’s the biggest learning that I have took away from our work. So confidence is definitely the biggest take away, learning about how to deal with other people, working on my dad and understanding that he isn’t who I thought he was. I had put him on such a pedestal for my whole life and its through the work I’ve now done that I realise thats not where he should be, he shouldn’t be there at all and the acceptance now of that makes it a lot easier to deal with everything thats happened this year as well. its also been an eye opener for me to be able to see now how my sisters and brothers saw him all this time and me thinking that ‘why are yous not looking at him in the way that i do’ so with everything that’s happened this year thats been a big point for me as well”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yeah definitely, I think for me whether or not this would have worked with a different therapist, I don’t know. I find you easier to talk to than somebody thats just going to sit there and hasn’t had necessarily the same kind of life experience and would deal with things in a potentially different way. I find you more grounded and easier to see eye to eye with, I know we still had very different lives but I think i can connect with you in my head in a way that I wouldn’t have necessarily been able to do with somebody that’s maybe gone through private school say, and hadn’t lived much outside of that. I would recommend you, and I have done’.

Posted By: G. F.

Yorkshire

Question 1

What if anything have you gained over the duration of our work together? Were there any key/standout moments?

“I have gained a sense of self, you’ve shown me how to accept myself. At the beginning of our work I struggled to understand where I stood in various relationships, I viewed myself in a negative way. Our sessions gave me the opportunity to be able to escape from certain situations and really focus on how these were effecting me. The ongoing support you have offered me has helped me achieve goals that I never dreamed of being able to reach. The most valuable thing I’ve taken away from these sessions is to believe in myself and feel confident about the fact that I’m a good Mum, daughter and friend”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes, I have and I will continue to do so as I’d love nothing more than for other people to also be able to experience the positive effect that our sessions have had on me”.

Posted By: K.G.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together? Where there any key/standout moments?

“I have gained a lot of self belief, I have learnt to love myself aswell as others, that is very important. Now I know what it does and how it helps not only you but others around you. I have also learnt self control, a lot of it. When I first came to therapy, there was not a lot, if anything I could let go over my head, after my time with you Alex, I could hold things, learnt new techniques and learn to deal with my own emotions without taking them out on others”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would definitely recommend you Alex. I was nervous on starting therapy as its a daunting thing for a proud man to start, but it’s relaxed, no judgements and has helped me and my family relationship just what I wanted it to do. Worth every penny”.

Posted By: Danny

Redcar & Cleveland

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together? Where there any key/standout moments?

“I have gained a great amount of patience and self-awareness throughout our sessions, the standout moment for me was where you helped me identify situations that made me angry and unhappy, I was then able to put obstacles in place to avoid them and side step confrontations”.

Q2-Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I would definitely recommend therapy with you Alex as you live in the real world and have been part of the real world , many therapists do not understand real life situations and live in an educational bubble and do not fully understand how difficult life can be for most people out there”.

Posted By: J.S

Tyne & Wear

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together? And where there any key/standout moments?

“For me I think the biggest thing I have taken from therapy is being able to look at things from a clearer perspective. I’m able to see situations, without being clouded by my thoughts, as they actually are. I’ve also learnt that it’s ok to feel particular emotions and I should just go with them, that there’s nothing wrong with feeling particular ways and doing so doesn’t make me a failure.

Key moments were: speaking as an outsider to myself about my situation, and saying goodbye to somebody who is no longer in my life but regularly in my thoughts”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I definitely would recommend therapy with you, in fact I already have to a few people! Every session I’ve had a ‘light bulb’ moment and have come away from therapy feeling positive and having clarity on particular situations”.

Posted By: Jane

Redcar & Cleveland

Q1. What, if anything, have you gained over the duration of our work together?

“Being true to myself is what I would say. That involves getting stronger and being more independent, our work has given me the drive to know that I can succeed in many areas. It’s made me a better parent too, I haven’t spilled over at home onto the kids, I have brought my feelings here and then went home and shown my strength to them. I’m just better all round in relationships. I learned to accept being alone, and now even though I’m in a really good relationship, I want him, I don’t need him. It’s had a massive impact on my life, I never would have thought I’d have the strength and courage I have now”.

Q2. Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I do anyway, so yes, massively. It helps you grow, I haven’t dealt with my issues with biased people, its not pity with you, which I hate. I think everybody should be in therapy at some point in their life. I have had therapy before and it didn’t do me any good, maybe because you’ve been there, you understand. Therapists I’ve had before, can I say it, don’t get it, it seemed like they were stuck up their own arse. I felt like a tick box NHS client. To be fair maybe I wasn’t as ready back then too, but it felt like they had a mould I had to fit into and one of their targets they had to meet”.

Posted By: Becky, L.

North Yorkshire

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained from the duration of our work together?

“I have gained more confidence, a way to look at things more objectively, to develop more awareness of a given situation. I remember when I came into one of our sessions having had a particularly hard time at work, and we did the EMDR and it was amazing, I wasn’t scared anymore, the fear of that situation was gone. In one of your experiments I also realised that I had come to forgive myself, the four year old little girl that had no voice regained her voice. I learned to acknowledge my pain and to understand that the pain I went through was real and that I had done what I had to to survive.

I always felt that I wasn’t enough and you’ve always reminded me that I am and to keep my child alive because that’s where the spirit lives. There were lots of moments when I felt encouraged by you, like a building process, I feel like everything I need is now within me. I just need to continue to nurture and protect myself, I feel like I’m now home. Thank you for that.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

Yes of course I would. You are genuine, you listen, I’ve had a therapist before who looked at the clock and nodded, you were there and shared your thoughts and feelings. You could also identify with whatever situation I was in and you empathised with me. I would say that the number one reason is probably that you challenge your clients, if you are serious about doing hard work you have to be ready to rip off the bandage and get to work. You also have the best fireplace and toilet in the north east of England. And also I’ve never said thank you for working around my surgery schedule. Thank you”.

Posted By: N. I.

Teesside

Q1: What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, where there any stand out moments?

“About half way through our work when I put my barriers up was a stand out moment for me, that’s when the penny dropped as I tried repeating what I’ve always done, kicking off and shutting down but you clocked it and we worked through it. I realised I’ve lived my life conforming to what others need from me, I’ve worked my socks off and slowly seen my family life deteriorating. I used to treat everything full on with the same approach. It was hard realising how the way I’ve been impacts so much on my children especially. I’ve now learned to tune into how my behaviour effects others around me and see that how I’m being affects their scripts so powerfully. I’m getting in better with everyone now.”

Q2: Would you recommend therapy with me and, if so, why?

“Yeah of course, it’s difficult to explain why though but if I didn’t come I don’t know where my life would be now. I think I would have just locked myself away. I speak more now too instead of just shutting up shop and getting angry. I’m now embracing what I used to see as a chore. I’ve softened a lot, at home and at work and I don’t want to fight the world no more. I’ll keep working on what we’ve covered, I’ve learned what makes me tick and pushed through some dark scary times. I’m focusing on the now and taking life one step at a time.”

Posted By: M. L.

N. East

Q1: What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, where there any stand out moments?

“I came into therapy knowing that I had a high level of negative self-awareness; I already knew a lot about myself; or so I thought. The sessions allowed me to explore how and why I have become the person I am today. They allowed me to connect with several younger versions of myself, recognise why they had developed the way they had and, as the sessions continued, I found that I had understanding and (dare I say) compassion for them and what they have been through. As a result I have been able to extend some of that understanding and compassion to my adult self and start to accept how I have become the person I am today. I was my own worst enemy when I started Gestalt therapy, now I am becoming my friend. Maybe not my best friend yet, but that idea doesn’t seem as impossible now as it once did!! I’m a work in progress, and I am ok with that!”

Q2: Would you recommend therapy with me and, if so, why?

“Undoubtedly. I was challenged in ways that I had never been challenged before, yet I felt psychologically held and totally safe throughout the whole process. Gestalt and your practice have taught me that I should not take what I think I know at face value; things aren’t always what they seem. I listen so much more to my feelings and senses now rather than just relying on my head. I have also learned that the past happened for a reason but that it is how I use that in the “here and now” that will best serve me and my future. I admired your congruence and openness and felt reassured me that things in my own past were not wrong and did not make me a terrible person. “Thank you” doesn’t seem enough!”

Posted By: Sarah, P

“When I first came to Alex I was really struggling with anxiety and stress. I felt trapped in a job that I did not enjoy and I had been really struggling.

The main thing I have learnt from my time with Alex was within bad times there are always opportunities. Alex has helped me grasp those opportunities which has ultimately made me feel a lot more positive about myself.

Key stand out moments came when Alex taught me coping mechanisms to help me deal with the stress and anxiety. I also liked how Alex challenged me on issues which allowed me to open up and be honest”.

Question 2.

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I had never been to therapy before and therefore did not know what to expect. Alex immediately made me feel very comfortable which allowed me to open up and tackle my particular issue. I would definitely recommend anyone to Alex, he has made me feel a lot more positive about myself”.

Posted By: Jonathan, G.

Teesside

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any key standout moments?

Q1:What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any key standout moments?

“I came to realise that I didn’t listen, and that Instead I buried my head in the sand. I realised coming to you how scared and upset I was. I am now fully aware of my addictive personality which I now manage much more effectively by being less avoidant, taking a step back and being more pro-active. Your a great listener and you were able to hit the nail on the head when I felt lost, that push and nudge from you I would expand on outside of our sessions”.

Q2: Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes. I was very selective, and I wanted someone I could relate too, the physical background and boxing histories helped straight away. I didn’t know what to expect but from the first session, straight away I could tell you got me and that it was more than just a job with you, you go above and beyond which made me want to give more. I’m not a doormat, and I wish to god I’d met you five years ago, the damage and fallout I’ve had would have been avoided. Therapy was taboo to me, but nowadays I’m sharing my sessions with 7 or 8 of my pals which is good, even my employees have benefitted. Our sessions have stuck with me and I’ve really enjoyed our time together. I feel satisfied ending, looking forward to my life and I’m going to keep on developing and remembering our sessions”.

Posted By: Paul, L.

Redcar & Cleveland

Q1:What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any key standout moments?

“I’ve learned about the impact that my family have had on my behaviour and my perception of things. I think I was in denial about how their behaviour may have affected me because I am lucky to have been blessed with a loving and caring family. However, they are not perfect (whose is!) and I’ve learned that my separation anxiety comes from the separation of my parents and the controlling behaviour that my mum displays. You’ve taught me ways to cope with this anxiety and spot the signs when it begins to affect my personal relationships.

I think one of the most important lessons I learned was about how to deal with tricky situations in romantic relationships. I often freak out if I don’t hear from someone for a while or their behaviour isn’t necessarily what I would do in a given situation. This is linked with my separation anxiety and you taught me to be a little more patient and sit with the discomfort a while longer before jumping to conclusions. This has really worked for me and I can honestly say may be one of the reasons why my new relationship is going well. I’ve also learned how to deal with conflict more appropriately. I do have a bit of a fiery side to me and this can aggravate situations even if I have the right to be angry. Therefore you taught me to convey my feelings in a way that is calm and respectful to the other person. This seems to be working so far.

I think one of the most life changing things that I’ve learned is to have confidence in my perceptions and feelings. My mother’s personality is very different from mine and often she tries to mold me into what she thinks I should be like (ladylike, elegant, calm) but that just isn’t me. She does this because she wants what is best but she needs to learn to accept me for who I am. Because of this I am often criticised for my behaviour and reactions to things (especially with men) and this meant I was insecure, dependent upon my mother’s advice and always felt I have behaved inappropriately. When I started to tell you things that I thought or felt about situations you made me see that my reactions were justified and to be proud of standing up for what I believe in. Now when I have an insecure moment and think ‘should I have done that?’ I remember how you taught me to have confidence in my perceptions and feelings and I no longer feel insecure or guilty about these.

I’ve also learned to respect myself and feel I have regained my dignity. For a couple of years I had lost my confidence and allowed people to push me around and this resulted in a constant erosion of my pride and dignity. You’ve taught me how to value myself again and because of that I feel proud”.

Q2: Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Absolutely and I have done already, lol. You are very warm and non-judgemental and this meant I felt I could be vulnerable with you and really tell you what I was feeling. This was of course central to the success of the therapy. I really liked the fact that you would talk about some of your own experiences and these gave me comfort as I then knew that how I was feeling wasn’t crazy at all. It also showed me that you had a lot of life experience to draw from and this is crucial. I would not have enjoyed talking with a therapist who could not relate on some level to what I was talking about. However, whilst you are open to being vulnerable in our sessions I could also see your inner strength and I felt like I could rely on you for support. You are clearly a wonderful person, a diamond in the dust, and you helped me see the light in one of the darkest times of my life”.

Posted By: K.C.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any key standout moments?

“This is not an exhaustive list. Over the past year I have developed, matured, and learnt more than I thought was possible. With your help and support I have allowed myself to explore the pain of losing my father at a young age, along with a multitude of other issues. This process has taught me a lot of valuable lessons that I will take with me. I have learnt the only way to deal with emotions is to listen to, and process them, as opposed to repressing them. I have learned to listen to my inner child, not be so self critical and disassociate myself with any problems I may face. I have learnt not to project or catastrophise situations, enabling myself to look at things with a cooler head without flying off the handle. Finally, I have learnt that only I have the power to cause myself undue stress and anxiety, and that is something I can control”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“I can not describe the impact that the work we have done together has made on my life. 12 months ago my anxiety was ruining my life, now I feel like a different person. From my first session I felt comfortable telling you things I had never spoken to anyone about. The fact that you too have overcome your own challenges and are comfortable sharing this has made my own experience a lot more bearable during the tough times. I can honestly say that I have never met anyone who understands me as well as you do and will miss our sessions together”.

Posted By: Alex, B.

Teesside

Q1. What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key standout moments?

“It’s so difficult to summarise in a few sentences just how important the last 18 months have been. When I arrived, there were feelings of shame, disgust and confusion about myself and my future. Your immediate acceptance of me as a person and what was going on at the time has allowed continuing progress to take place to the point where I’ve allowed a close family member into what has been a very difficult part of my life….never in a million years would I think I was capable of doing something like that. I project far less, I am able to take a step back and see why or what is going on but most importantly you taught me to trust relationships and trust myself to be able to work through rifts in a relationship (there were a few). I have achieved incredible things professionally thanks to your support and can now treat myself with kindness instead of continuing down pathways of self destruction to manage distress. As I now embark on the next journey in my life, I am sure there will be continuing challenges however I am confident that I am far more resourceful and carry far less shame to allow me to embrace whatever new memories I start to create”.

Q2. Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“You listen to understand, not just to respond, and your understanding of me as a person and what was sometimes going on in the room was always pretty much spot on. Your warmth, kindness and human approach was refreshing, and always worked without judgements; even when I brought loads! You promote hard work in and out of the therapy room and when sensing avoidance give the challenges that are needed to ensure that the most is gained from each session! You see the best and encourage the best and I can’t imagine having not had the honour to have worked with you.

It doesn’t really do justice to what has gone on in the last 18 months but I just hope you know how special you are to me, I will miss you greatly! Thanks for being scrappy!!”

Posted By: Mark, T.

Teesside

“Well I am unwrapping into a different journey, and that is because you have helped me to unwrap my inner hurt, the hidden places that I did not want to let go of, because they felt familiar and safe. NOW…I am taking risks, risks with myself and others. I am learning that I can be assertive and voice my needs and not feel guilty about them. This will be a continued journey; Rome was not built in a day!!! But I know I have the confidence to take risks and on the days where it is lacking I will endeavour to take care of myself, not dwell on my thoughts and accept this is also a part of me and tomorrow is a new day. I will remember the clock face technique and imagine ‘you’ singing ‘Born to fight’ at ‘half past the hour’ as part of my support network.

Alex my sentiments in this letter are my honest thoughts and feelings as to how I have found our therapeutic relationship together. Your genuine humanness and warmth has helped me to trust you, enabling me to un-wrap my hidden self, at times that has been incredibly hard, and at times I have felt at the depths of despair, but I knew you supported me through the process. You challenged me where needed in a gentle way, helping me to see that challenge is ‘OK’ Thank you for that. You have at all times shown professionalism and expertise and have always been accurate with your interventions. These qualities will serve you well with clients and I believe are an essential part of any therapeutic relationship and are at times so lacking in any helping relationships.

I wish you with all sincerity continued success in your career and your personal life; I have and will continue to recommend you as a therapist as I am sure you will help many other people to “un-wrap” their hidden selves and move forward in their lives. I look forward to one day maybe reading your books and attend your workshops! As you have a lot to offer Alex, to other professionals and people who need a ‘listening ear’ and a ‘warm heart’. Thank you again for MY help!

Posted By: S. S.

North Yorkshire

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work?

“I have gained increased tolerance. Over the years I would kick off at the drop of a hat, I think about the situation now and as you said to me I can choose whether I am more interested in being right, or getting it right. That’s been massive for me on a daily basis and applying it to my relationship with my family I have seen big shifts in the right direction. I’m realising that there’s lots of things in life that I don’t need to worry about. I spent my life worrying about so many things, now I can put my mind to sitting alongside my anxieties and ride them out. I have a spring in my step now, I’m having happy thoughts that no longer get blasted straight down by 5 negative thoughts. My relationship with my son has improved so much and the change in me is also rubbing off on others dramatically. It’s been amazing speaking to someone like you.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

“Yes. I have never done anything like this before and from the first minute I met you I felt completely relaxed, I felt I could tell you everything and I have, I have never hidden anything in here I’ve just went for it. I’m not sure whether its your manner and the ease you have or because we are men of similar ages but I remember driving back home after our first session knowing I was in the right place with the right person.”

Posted By: G.S.

North East

Question 1

What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, and where there any key standout moments?

“What I’ve learned is to express my feelings which is a hell of a difference from when I used to build them up and then blow. I don’t let things build up now, I take a minute to think, whereas before I’d fly off the handle like a firework. I use what I’ve learned daily. The way we’ve worked has also been at my pace, and my choice which I have really enjoyed. I’ve learned that its not a sign of weakness to express your emotions because your an ex soldier and ex policeman. I’m glad I asked for help”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Obviously yes. It’s quite strange what happened. I went on counselling directory and there was a lot of choice, but you stood out for me, there was something about you. I asked my wife to search too and tell me who she thought I should go with, she looked through them all and said, this one, which was you and that sealed it. I think your therapy room is fantastic too, homely which made me feel at ease, with loads of space. You have a nice easy manner and our lives have been very similar at times. One of the toughest things for me to do is to show weakness which wasn’t a problem for me around you. I also liked how you asked me what I would like to deal with, and in what order allowing me to ease into the demons. I remember feeling so much lighter after we had worked on the biggest one, I could feel the change as I walked out of the door.”

Posted By: Andrew

Teesside

Question 1

What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, were there any standout moments?

“Emotions. I have learned to listen to them more and by doing so gain more control over them. I was coming out of depression with my fathers death, and before you I couldn’t talk openly about Dad, now I can. I’ve learned through you and the P.A.C model to recognise and take care of my needs as they arise. The anger work was a superb release valve, helping me to identify and let go of my anger. I am taking away techniques to help me cope with life, like the pictures you made for me that I still use to ground myself and stay in the present. I use our techniques before meetings now and always go in a lot calmer. I also remember how accurate your intuition and summations were of my true feelings in the role play, you could play my feelings and speak my thoughts to a tee. I can now talk about life more openly, and feel more fully. I am a more confident man and not just in my job but in all areas of my life.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so, why?

100 percent yes. In my lifetime I have never known a person listen so carefully to what I had been through and I was amazed at how you addressed my feelings and in particular my childhood. I think that you are very very conscious of how people are and so understanding. I just think your a top guy to work with. I would recommend you for any form of therapy , your the only person in my life that I have been able to talk 100 percent honestly with and doing so has made me a better man.”

Posted By: Mark W.

Teesside

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

“I thought I knew myself, but didn’t. The sessions dug up some surprising things about “the inner me” and my coping methods. Some good, but some to work at if I am to keep my equilibrium as a long-term Carer. I am extremely grateful for Alex’s insight into my past experiences, looking from a complete new perspective and with compassion”.

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Yes, I would. I came out of this feeling worthy and determined, and learnt that if I look out for myself first, then I‘ll be able to look out for the both of us, and we’ll be better for it. The point “Let there be space in your togetherness” really hit home. Altogether, it was an enriching experience that will stay with me for a long time”.

Posted By: C. S.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

“The main thing is I understand more now, that my problems affect other people too. I don’t feel alone anymore which has lifted me.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Yes Its worked in only four sessions with this last one to go. I thought of a therapist and imagined, condescending, but your not. Your explanations are easy for me to take on board because you talk in my language. Without even asking you you just hit the nail right on the head.”

Posted By: D. A.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you gained or learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

“I’d say I have realised I am not a victim anymore, and I have new healthier ways of coping with anxiety. I’ve learned I need to do more outside of work, hobbies and stuff like that to find more balance. I have also realised that I can still act reluctantly to being as honest as I could be, which I’ve learned is an adjustment I have held onto from the past that is still holding me back now.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Yes I would. You have given me a new perspective, a different way of looking at things. This has been different to the therapy I have had before which was more about teaching me to be more assertive. Now I have found the answers as to why I have held back so long and not been assertive.”

Posted By: S. A.

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, do you feel you have learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

“I’ve learned a lot. Before I used to put up with, and take shit, I’m a lot more confident now and rather than bottle it up I will say it as it is. I definitely have more confidence now. I’ve learned to ask for help now when I need it instead of allowing others a free ride. I’m telling people when I’m not happy with their attitude. A lot of what we have discussed helps make things so much clearer, especially around my inner child”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so why?

“Definitely, you’ve been very helpful to me, helped me cope and put things into clear perspective. As I said you’ve helped me understand things I couldn’t understand and helped me find the confidence along with the strategies to cope and deal with my problems”.

Posted By: Elaine, E

Teesside

Question 1

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

“I’ve learned there’s lots of ways I can relax rather than holding things inside. I feel better in myself altogether now, my life without as many arguments is heaven. I was forever feeling angry but I feel free and easy now, my life and anger was like a crescendo that I don’t get caught up in as easily now. I’ve learned to not give my power away”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Definitely. For me once I got over the first hurdle of coming to therapy, I immediately felt comfortable with you. I find you very easy going and very understanding. You have also managed to draw out so many memories and I have come to realise how important the past is in the present. I don’t think there was anything I could have done on my own, this has been very beneficial for me and others in my life. The overall experience leaves me feeling much happier and the child in me is getting more than it’s ever had which is amazing”.

Posted By: Lenny, K

Teesside

Question 1: What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together? And where there any key standout moments?

“Ive learned to allow myself all of my range of emotions and to be OK with that and to make peace with that. The standout moments were revisiting deeply painful times when I felt abandoned”.

Question 2: would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Yes definitely. I feel you have really lived and been on a big journey and this has opened you up in a way that allows you to connect and be deeply empathetic, and yet rigorous, calm and controlled in the process. I understand the process of letting go requires continually opening the painful moments and I feel we’ve done that, and I now have the tools to continue that work should I need to in the future, Thank you”.

Posted By: David, M.

Teesside

Q 1: What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, where there any key standout moments?

“The key moments for me are that I found it really easy to open up to you straight away. I’ve never like therapist/client and I’ve never felt judged. If anything its felt like a mate type relationship”.

Q 2: would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“Yes, just because it was so easy to feel comfortable with you and the environment you provide. Ive learned a lot and I’ve never felt pressurised, your tea’s not to bad either..I’ll give it a 8 out of 10”.

Posted By: Janet, H.

Teesside

Q 1: What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, where there any key or standout moments?

“A key moment was when you said to me ‘if you always do what you’ve always done, then you’ll always get what you always got’. That hit home, I was stuck in Groundhog Day and I’m not now. I know I can’t control everything and I’m not hung up on trying too anymore. I’m not as anxious all the time”.

Q 2: Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

“I would say yes, you have a really calming influence and you’ve helped me deal with and understand what was going on in my head”.

Posted By: Jeannette, M.

Teesside

Question 1

Do you feel you have benefited and changed during the course of our therapy?

“Yes without a shadow of doubt. I have learnt so much during therapy. Understanding my actions and those of others towards me, the real root cause for these. I have discovered more of my own qualities and have gradually not felt the need to feel approved of, or worthy to others.

I have allowed myself to be vulnerable and honest and to face some very challenging issues by talking through these. This has allowed me to feel the pain but then continue to build up my strength, of which I have learned I do have a lot of! I wish I had of had therapy earlier in life to have been blessed with the benefit sooner”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me? If so why?

“I would definitely. You have been a true example to me. You have inspired me throughout our sessions and I learned to trust you. You work hard, you are determined and you have a great heart. I know you have not had success handed to you, your not a ‘text book’ therapist you are street wise and that also mattered to me”.

Date of Posting: 30 December 2014

Posted By: K. R.

Teesside

Question 1:

Do you feel you have changed and benefited during our work together?

“I definitely feel that I have benefited and changed as a result of therapy. You have helped me loads and I now feel 100% confident that I’ll never get into another bad relationship again. I have had a few different types of counselling/therapy and never come away feeling any different but with you I feel I have addressed and actually made sense of everything now… The things that have happened in my life and also why I have got into the relationships I have. I honestly feel you have changed my life because I probably would have continued in that cycle.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

“I would definitely recommend therapy with you because you’re always honest and challenged me on things, like how I viewed events in my past, but you were always caring. I really can’t thank you enough “

Posted By: Claire, D.

Teesside

Question 1

What have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together & where there any key standout moments?

“I would say accepting myself as a whole and still being able to bring out all the seperate of me as and when I need too. I’ve learned that previously disowned parts of me are needed. I’m not afraid of what happen anymore. I have been standing up for myself at work, in family life & at University. I can imagine what you might say and that supports me to find my own voice”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me & if so, why?

“Of course I would & I already have done. You do whats needed, you challenge people to be honest with themselves and thats important. You don’t hide behind anything, theres no shit, what you see is what you get with you. I’m taking away more courage, more respect for myself and more acceptance that who I am as a person is great. I’ll take away the smell of the fire in here too, it’s like home”.

Posted By: Kerri, B.

Middlesbrough

Question 1:

What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

“I’ve learned to accept that I am human, and to accept myself as I am. I have also learned not to suppress emotions and how to understand and control my anger more fully. But I guess the biggest thing is that I feel you’ve given me the confidence to see I’m going to be OK”

Question 2:

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

“Yes. I never felt judged by you, I was really ashamed and you understood. You also never threw jargon at me, you gave me real life examples that I can relate too. From the first session I’ve had the utmost respect for you as a therapist. I’ve really enjoyed it and I feel refreshed”.

Posted By: Ben, H.

Teesside

Q: What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

A: “I;d say the biggest learning I’ve had is that when I drop into my insecure areas I don’t need to stay there. I now know that I have the strength to refuse to take bullshit off of people. I can & do say what I need to say so that they know exactly who I am and what my opinion is. I’m clearer and more able to get my needs met too”.

Q: Would you recommend therapy with me & if so, why?

A: “I would because for me there is a caring, loving and supportive honesty that runs right through you and thereby the work we have done together. With you, you get what you see. I had heard about you and I knew you were the therapist I needed, and the depth of work we have completed has justified my choice. I will miss talking and sharing with you each week but I feel I’ll be carrying your support and care with me & can easily visualise your face & your reactions which is a valuable tool to have”.

Posted By: S A

Redcar and Cleveland

Q: What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together?

A: “I’ve learned about my shadow side, which makes me think more about the decisions I am making and which side of me is making them. I have also learned how to channel my anger more healthily, the work we did on Bob the slam man gave me a real release”.

Q: Would you recommend therapy with me and if so, why?

A: “Yes I would because I like the way you are. You have a nice calm way about you and you seem to have a lot of talents. It’s been interesting getting to know you and getting to know more about myself”.

Posted By: J M

Stockton-on-Tees

Question 1

What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together & were there any key stand-out moments?

“Loads of things and memories including the two deaths in my family we dealt with but if I had to put it under an umbrella the biggest is Transference, learning the power of the past and how it still affects me now. As I look back through my notes of our earlier sessions I no longer see myself the same way, the learning and change in me has been Massive.”

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me and if so why?

“Ohh Yes. I’ve said before I’m a great believer in fate and I knew last summer I needed help. If I didn’t get that help I would have got divorced and I believe I would have killed myself after having come so close to it before we met. I found you on the internet searching for Psychotherapist, you came up third or fourth but we hit it off really well, I believe our similar backgrounds helped too. With the right therapist, and I got the right one with you, everyone can benefit from it. I’m smiling more from within now and enjoying life, I will never forget you.”

Date of Posting: 01 July 2014

Posted By: Richie. O.

Teesside

Client Feedback

Your input is important to me. Please provide your valuable feedback. Here are some testimonials from my past and present clients:

Question 1

What if anything have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together & where there any key stand-out moments?

“I have a greater understanding of my vulnerabilities & thought processes. Through therapy you’ve taught me how to look at things more calmly and more logically, I had no idea how to deal with the issues I was facing. You helped me break them down one by one and by doing so manage to get ahead of them one at a time. I’d say one of the biggest learnings for me, or key moments was the realisation that I still have a child ego state within me. I’ve always wondered why at times I have felt so hurt and vulnerable, now I know that I still long for what I never had, I’ve been trying my whole life to get the love and affection my child never had enough of. I also thought the enactments and role play was very useful, it enabled me to identify and respond to the root of the problem in a way that I wouldn’t have done otherwise.

After all the medical checks I’ve had to try and identify my physical pain drawing a blank you hit the nail on the head when explaining how you see my current life issues through a psychosomatic lens. My physical pain has eased more & more over the duration of our therapy as we have been dealing with my emotional distress”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me & if so why?

“Yes I would indeed. Initially your age put me off but I’ve found that you have far more life experience and wisdom than I expected. You have what I find to be a unique way of explanation and communication which has helped me to understand myself more fully through the theories that inform your practice. And Alex you must be good because I’m missing the France football match right now in our last session and I don’t take my football lightly”.

Posted By: Brian S.

Teesside

Question1

What, if anything, have you learned about yourself over the duration of our work together, where there any key standout moments?

“I’ve realised through the course of our therapy that it doesn’t have to be just me against the rest of the world. Having never being impacted by a death before I didn’t know how to deal with it, I do now and I’ve been able to grieve properly going through the stages enabling me to remember the best of him, without losing him. I have also felt that by throwing myself in the deep end, way out of my previous comfort zone I have grown and matured. All guns blazing works more for me now rather than my old pattern of avoidance which just made things bigger anyway. The Kahlil Gibran two separate columns analogy also helped me in building a stronger relationship with my partner. Instead of feeling like I have to be in a relationship, I now want to be, I’ve learned to take more responsibility for ‘what’s mine’ in our relationship and reject what isn’t. It’s as if I’m leaving with more tools and I know how to use them more effectively”.

Question 2

Would you recommend therapy with me, and if so why?

Yes, I definitely would. For me, I was a young lad walking in and I could relate to you. The fact that you’ve probably been in similar situations to me helped me to connect and open up to you more. One of the biggest things for me was that I didn’t just want somebody sat across from me nodding, from your picture you looked like you’d be able to challenge me and you did which has helped me make more changes as opposed to the stereotype I had in my head.

I like how the first five minutes or so we catch up but when its time to work we get stuck in, then warm down at the end leaving everything in the room rather than taking my problems outside.

I’ve never felt like you’ve told me what to do its always been like you’ve walked with me to the end of the diving board and it was up to me to do the rest, ultimately its never been forced.

Thinking back to the beginning I feel totally different, a lot more calm in myself and I think more instead of being as reactive. I also have more empathy with myself and others.

To start with I felt pushed into therapy by my partner and leaving now I’d rather deal with my problems than store them up and deal with the consequences. I’ll never regret coming to therapy, I have a much clearer more positive mindset and I’d definitely recommend it for anyone, I feel everyone would gain from it”.

Posted By: Jonathan, B.

Teesside

“This is my second time I’ve seen you and it’s helped wonders. It’s helped me to put my past learning back into place. Your not like like any other therapist I’ve known, your kind, caring, compassionate and at times cheeky! Your real easy to talk too and one of only a few people who can really make me feel at ease. Sometimes you irritate me me by challenging me, I don’t like being wrong, when I’m hell bent and stubborn you can help me shift my one track thinking. I also want to thank you for making therapy affordable for me by dropping your price to what I can afford so that I could still come and see you. You could have said no but you didn’t. Whenever I’ve left you messages you’ve always got back to me really quickly to put my mind at rest, I never got that elsewhere. I’ve had good solid therapy with somebody who gets me and my life. I can see a big difference between this ending and our last, I feel more balanced on the whole, I’m less fixed and I’m calmer and happier in general. I’ve learned that I’m stronger than I first believed, I just needed a tune up to remind me of the good in life and the good in me”

Posted By: Louise, C.

Redcar & Cleveland

“I came in sceptical and hesitant but therapy with you has exceeded my expectations and I’m surprised at how well I have responded to it. I have no sense of wanting or needing more or less of anything from our work, I am full up. I contacted you originally to help me process my painful divorce and we have done that, I no longer feel at fault, I have won. Here I am a few months after starting therapy and I am starting a new career knowing that I am going to be OK. You have helped me make the best decisions for me confidently in my life and I’ve learned that I am stronger than I ever thought I was. I now feel that my gut instinct is reliable and a part of me to be trusted. I no longer feel a bad person and you’ve helped me gain fresh perspective on why I felt bad, which allowed others to manipulate my past perception.

I feel I’m coming from a place of strength and compassion and I no longer have any fears of succeeding. You have been what feels like a really good friend to me, I am ready to go and I will miss you”.

Posted By: Rebecca, H.

Saltburn by the Sea

“Yes I would recommend therapy with you. You’ve helped me get out of the mess I was in by being in a relationship with a dangerous Narcissist partner. You helped me process through the aftermath and understand that it wasn’t ‘all my fault’ as he insisted. I don’t think I could have done it without you, I would have probably opted for strong anti-depressants and that’s not the answer. I got a whole load more than I expected from you, I had internalised and believed so much of others projections onto me but I’m clearer now on what’s mine & what’s theirs. You’ve helped me over some dark things that were buried within me even through you had to drag me kicking and screaming! I struggled and didn’t feel comfortable with some of the Gestalt experiments we did but afterwards I could see the benefits and it helped me flush out the ‘unfinished business’ as you called it. Going forward I’m glad you introduced me to the little girl in me, who still needs fun, hope and safeguarding by the protective parent that I am to my boys. I’m less reactive now and I won’t waste my time on life’s persecutors”

Posted By: Cath, B.

Teesside

“I would recommend therapy with you and I already have to two work colleagues. You genuinely care and you are protective, respectful, non judging, honest and trustworthy. You share yourself in the interest of others like me and I can’t think of anybody who wouldn’t feel your humanness and who wouldn’t benefit from therapy with you. Hearing your diagnosis ultimately empowered me and gave us a focus for our work. I also enjoyed the anger work with Bob which definitely helped me shift something as did the role play and 3 chair work. The support you gave me when my Grandad passed away helped me Massively in saying goodbye to him and being there for him at such an important time, you’ve leaned in when I’ve needed it most. I’ve also really enjoyed being able to challenge which you made safe here, I will miss you.”

Posted By: Rhian, O.

Teesside

“I would recommend therapy with you Alex, you created such a friendly atmosphere with the fire going it became a home away from home. I’ve learned about dedication and I’m more confident than ever, it was a brave step for me to start therapy. I could never thank you enough for what you’ve done for me, it’s been an incredible journey and I’ve changed so much”.

Posted By: Jonathan, P.

Durham

“I’ve enjoyed all of our sessions, you’ve given me a really relaxing environment with very little distractions. I’ve often come away exhausted and physically hungry for some reason although looking back its more than likely because I’ve been here to work and put so much in. I feel I’m leaving with a lot that not only I have benefitted from but friends and others at work have also benefitted from by me sharing some of our therapy with them. I was a bit freaked out at first by the role play and chair work but once I got into it I was glad you challenged me because I loved it, I’ve gotten to know and like much more of me and I also got to say the things that had previously been eating away at me. By working through the break up that brought me to therapy I realise that I did my best and it wasn’t good enough for her, I’m at peace with that now and feel that its her loss at the end of the day and it’s worked out for the best. I’ve moved on slowly into a new healthier relationship with clean boundaries and it’s going really well. You’ve been very easy to talk too and you’ve guided me towards my own answers. I’ve learned it’s alright to wear your heart on your sleeve, being too proud to ask for help was hurting me. Leaving I feel It’s all been beneficial and I’ve already recommended you too others”.

Posted By: Paul, R.

Teesside

“One of the Biggest things I’ve learned and changed about myself during our work together is my propensity to ‘collect stamps’. By collecting stamps and burying my pain I steadily lost my voice and will to fight back at life’s many injustices which led to my severe depression and brought me to the brink of suicide. I now have my voice and strength back. I’ve had therapy before coming to you but I’ve largely felt they’ve been going through the motions, and I suppose I did too, i know you don’t go through the motions. I feel you are extremely passionate about what you do and it shows in how you do it, you matter to me and I’ve felt I really matter to you too, and it makes a hell of a difference. Another thing that’s really helped is your life experience, your not easily shocked. We’ve had some really tough sessions when I’ve felt at my worst and you’ve stayed right there with me, and then we’ve had some easier sessions and had a great laugh. It’s like you track me closely and give me what I need, when I need it. It’s like I’m saying goodbye to a best pal.”

Posted By: Kevin R.

Teesside

I’ve learned that a lot of what I did subconsciously had deep ties to my early childhood history of relationships. I’ve allowed people to walk all over me, as they often did in my past. I am now changing and challenging this daily and feel more proud of myself and less ashamed. I put myself first a lot more, I’m a lot more aware of how I’m acting, what I’m doing, and more aware that I can only control my reactions to life, not life itself. I have already, and will continue to recommend therapy with Alex because of how much he has helped me to change.

Posted By: Angela M. S.

Teesside

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I’ve learned that I used to push a lot down, avoid things and people please. Now I’m being more selective and pleasing the right people and dealing with issues as they arise much more easily. I’ve also learned that I both like and need encouragement, and that I haven’t give myself enough in the past or allowed others to fully support and encourage me. I’m more aware of my patterns and self in general now and I’ve found this place a relaxing and great environment that I’ve always looked forward to coming too. I’ve enjoyed Alex’s honesty and I feel lighter in general. Highly recommended by me.

Posted By: Stuart M.

Teesside

Trust was a major issue for me in deciding to start therapy. Alex made me feel at ease almost to the point that at times, it didn’t feel like I imagined therapy would ‘feel’. I can honestly say that I’ve enjoyed every session we’ve had, I’ve caught myself thinking at times ‘I can’t wait to tell Alex about this, or that, events which happened in between our sessions, it’s been enjoyable’. I feel 100 times better as I’m ending now than I did coming in, and I know that if I ever feel the need to come again in the future that the door will always be open to me.

Posted By: John P.

Alex helped me open up my mind to some of my hidden issues. By helping me to find parts of my inner self he then taught me how to deal with issues that in the past seemed insurmountable.

Posted By: Tony B

My first perception of counselling and psychotherapy was myself being sat in front of some sort of nutty professor being scrutinised on my behaviour,

The service which Alex offers is nothing like this and from my initial visit i was pleasantly surprised.

The setting in which the sessions take place is very home from home, very relaxed.

Alex has plenty of life experience and could relate to a lot of issues presented.

I always felt 100% better after each session and would definitely recommend this service to anyone thinking of having therapy sessions.

Posted By: Lauryn M

Durham

The immediate thing about therapy, is the tangible strength and warm understanding contact. He has a very broad and in tune knowledge of working with clients and I found this a great basis, in trusting him in our work together. I have been with him for a year now and have felt supported and cared about right the way through.

Posted By: Simon A.

Cleveland

I find it easier to talk to people now, I stop and think before I make decisions instead of jumping in like I used to, or bottling things up which made me feel even more unhappy. I understand now that I can’t control everyone and everything which has helped me feel less angry and stressed, I realise now that all I can really control is how I react to whatever life brings my way. I now have a new job and new relationship and I worry less about fitting in and what other people think of me. I’m happier with me.

Posted By: Louise C.

Redcar & Cleveland

I have benefitted from therapy and my self confidence is higher than I can remember. Coming to these sessions have made a huge difference to my life, I socialise more and take more pride in my appearance I also take better care of myself and have a healthier lifestyle. Looking back I would never have thought I would be more positive about my life, but nowadays I am.

Posted By: Colin T.

East Cleveland

I feel I have benefitted a great deal from my therapy. I feel I have come a long way in the past year. I am more confident and have more self belief. I have also learned how to understand myself more and not to beat myself up over little things. Since I started therapy I haven’t self harmed any more as I have learned other less self destructive ways to deal with my anger and emotions. It has also helped me in my relationship with my partner as I no longer take it out on him, I take my issues to my therapist Alex instead.

Posted By: Clare L.

East Cleveland

I decided to invest in some personal therapy for myself and being a newly qualified counsellor i knew that i needed an integrated approach for my therapy within a high challenge/high support environment. I would not hesitate to recommend this service for private therapy.

Posted By: Paul H.

Redcar & Cleveland

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Your input is important to me. Please provide your valuable feedback. Here are some testimonials frommy past and present clients

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my past and present clients